Dear Everyone,

I'm 20 years old, I'll be 21 in March. I have a problem. I never went on a single date before. Why? I'm just asking because maybe you can help me, is there something wrong with me? I would go with anyone, I have love for all. I can't reject anyone because that would hurt me inside too. I'm 5"6 1/2 in height, I'm normal in weight, infact my friends say I'm skinny (which, well my Body Mass Index is almost categorized as underweight, it's 19. something) and I dress really nice and stylish. I have people commenting on how I dress, my hair so many times. I don't mean to brag, I just want to tell you all to describe what's up and still nothing. Once I was in the lady's room and a woman said wow, you're beautiful. Yesterday a little baby girl (23 months old) thought I was Arielle from the Little Mermaid. I don't have red hair, it's blondish brown and blue eyes. I wear make up too. I do anything and everything to look nice because then I feel good about myself. I go to all my classes in my university, I go to Church, I go to Institute (religion classes outside of school, like Bible classes) and I talk with guys maybe rarely, but I never got asked out. Do you know what's the matter?
Please help.

Thank you.

Wondergirl

Now that we know what you look like, how do you act when you are with other people?
1. girls your age
2. boys your age
3. children younger than you
4. adults
5. mixed ages together

katringette22

it sucks im only 16 but eveveryone eles has a bf and i've never had

J_9

Hun, it's not about looks. That is very superficial and will turn many men away. The right man won't care if you're 5'6 or 2"6. The right man won't care if your BMI is 19 or 29.

It's about personality, not beauty.

So, with that said, what kind of person are you? Where do you go to meet men? What do you talk about when you meet them?

Are you shy or outgoing?

Looks aren't everything, and with time, they do fade.

Micuka

I guess I'm shy. But I talk about interesting things and they are the leaders of the conversation.

Micuka

To a previous poster, I treat everyone with respect and love. I am nice to everyone. I just don't understand why guys don't want to get to know me.

J_9

I don't mean to sound harsh, but when you posted here it was all about your looks and how beautiful you are.....Could that come across to some guys? They don't like to be around women who are beautiful, know it, and flaunt it.

I know I sounded harsh, but your question here about not getting any dates, you flaunted how beautiful you are. As we said, looks are not everything.

It's all about personality, honesty, being a genuinely nice person, fun to be around, spontaneous.

Micuka

I am honest, a genuine person and friends tell me that all the time. And I am fun to be around with, yes. It's just that still no one has asked me out and I don't know why. I have a friend who refers to me as his gem of a friend. Because I'm caring, honest, loving, an angel. I can quote him even. Still, I never got asked out. The guys don't even get to know the girls. I have guy friends tell me that they are scared of rejections.

Wondergirl

The guys may be scared of rejection from you because you are so beautiful and make sure everyone realizes the beauty. Then guys think, "How could anyone so beautiful date or fall in love with ordinary me????"

If you are truly so honest, genuine, fun, a gem, caring, loving, an angel, your calendar should be full of dates.

Ask some of these guys why they don't ask you out. If they say because of rejection, ask them why they feel that way.

Micuka

I don't make it known to anyone. I just look my best all the time as we are instructed to do. I don't brag about myself, why does everyone think that? I don't understand why guys don't ask me out even if they say nice things about me.