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    nycblonde Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 3, 2009, 07:31 PM
    Why did he contact me and show interest, only to blow me off? Seeing him soon.
    A few weeks ago, an ex's friend (an ex neither us speak to anymore for very good reasons) had contacted me. He expressed his interest in me and wanting to see me, and I agreed. We both said we were single. This is the first time we spoke in about a year.

    We continued to talk and planned on going out, until about a week ago. That's when he stopped contacting me, and ignored a couple of texts I sent him about meeting up.

    As of two nights ago, his status on Facebook and myspace went from "single" to "in a relationship".

    I know I was being blown off because of whatever situation he has going on. I don't know if this was a recent thing/ he got back together with an ex/ or was never single to begin with.

    I have a few questions:

    Why would he contact me and attempt anything in the first place? Why waste my time?

    After he switched his status, I sent him a text saying "blowing me off was unnecessary, you could of just been honest about what was going on," and left it at that. Should I have said anything?

    There is an event in about a month that we will both be at. He doesn't know I'll be there. What should I do and what should I say?


    I'm very much moving on, but seeing each other next month is inevitable.


    Thanks so much!
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    Feb 4, 2009, 05:18 PM
    The event next month, is it big? (as in a lot of ppl)

    Because if there is I would just ignore him, and he'll prob ignore you. (if he has a new girlfriend and all) So just go to the event, be ravishing and say hi and everything if it comes to that and then ignore him. LOL of course this is what I would do. ;) I would just show up and look my best and then ig nore, ignore, ignore... but if I was in a situation where I would have to interact, i.e. have a conversation of any kind, I would just take the high road, and be polite (no harm in that, even though what he did was lame, and cowardish... )

    I'm glad you're moving on though! ;) he doesn't seem to be worth your time!

    Hope this helped, at least some ;)

    Roxy

    Ps:
    As for why he showed interest only to blow you of, its hard to say. He's really the only one can know that. B/c there can be a number of reasons.
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    Feb 5, 2009, 02:29 AM

    Thanks so much for the response hun!

    The event next month is a show where he will be playing at. The reason, I'll be there is because I'm actually working at the show... and he has no idea.

    The likelihood of us seeing each other is about 95%. I mean I could get lost in the crowd... lol... or completely dodge him if I really tried. But I'll admit, I do like the idea of taking him by surprise.

    And I'm not really mad either. Things happen. And I know he's not an evil guy, I just think it was dumb and pointless.

    My guy friends seem to think the whole reason he just never said anything about his situation is because he is embarrassed, and that I obviously know now, after he went on and on about how single he was. Things don't change dramatically in a week.

    Someone also brought up a good point that the person he is with, it may be very rocky, and she found out he had listed himself as single on Facebook (he just joined) and as a swinger on myspace, and made him change it. And puttting the kabash on our plans, being that its quite a change lol
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    Feb 5, 2009, 02:57 AM
    I love the idea of you and him being in the same place at the same time. :)

    I would pay to see the look on his face, as he turns as red as a beet, has heart palpitations, and wets himself. In front of his g/f of course.

    I know, I'm evil.

    A surprise like that would require no words at all. He just very well learn a lesson he won't forget.

    Make him sweat.
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    Feb 5, 2009, 10:42 AM

    Lol he prob is embarrassed, and when he sees you... you'll have the upper hand no matter what.

    I'm glad your not sad or angry with the situation, and I do agree it did seem quite unnecessary...

    LOL I'm glad you know people who know him, who could shed some light on the situation.
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    Feb 5, 2009, 11:46 AM

    Thanks again, ladies. I love the responses. Great minds think alike.

    I'm actually laughing really hard for three reasons.

    1) I'm going with both of your ideas and can't wait to see his reaction

    2) His status has changed about three times in the past few days (not a good sign)

    3) Just found who his girlfriend is, and she looks like Amy Whinehouse. Instead of the boufant, she has skunk hair and is about 30lbs heavier. Everything else is the same.

    LOL
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    Feb 5, 2009, 11:50 AM
    Lol I LOVE IT NYCblond! ;) haha amy winehouse, LOL not a good thing.


    I must say I really like the idea of you bumping into him as well, lol, (I think we all have a little evil in us.)

    And I too would like to see his face. :p LOl I'm guessing you'll have no problems then, going to the event and be the fab you... that you are!
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    Feb 5, 2009, 12:15 PM
    I'm LMAO here, and happily anticipating the event. I wish I could be a fly on the wall.

    PLEASE write back and tell us what happened. :D
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    Feb 5, 2009, 04:06 PM

    Why would he contact me and attempt anything in the first place? Why waste my time?

    maybe him and his girl of interest got into a fight and he was trying to rebound with you. He wasted your time because he doesn't care about you. he's only looking out for himself

    After he switched his status, I sent him a text saying "blowing me off was unnecessary, you could of just been honest about what was going on," and left it at that. Should I have said anything?

    You had a right to express your self.


    There is an event in about a month that we will both be at. He doesn't know I'll be there. What should I do and what should I say?

    Show up at the event looking hotter than ever and ignore ignore ignore him.

    I hope this helps. Good luck!
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    Feb 5, 2009, 04:49 PM

    Your attitude is great and besides seeing him at the event maybe in the long run it's good that you didn't see him. Sometimes we have to leave the past in the past and move forward.

    His girlfriend looks like Amy Winehouse while maybe she needs to go to rehad and didn't go like Amy Winehouse, lol.

    I think you dodge a big bullet.
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    Feb 5, 2009, 04:54 PM

    LiZ: had to spread the rep ;) but lol rehab...

    And yes like liz I do think you might have dodged a bullet with this one ;)
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    Feb 5, 2009, 05:00 PM

    Lol because Amy looks like she needs rehad instead of saying no and not to be fun lf people but she looks like she can be on a billboard with the captions under it saying "Please say no to drugs". Or I don't know maybe she needs to eat something? Okay, I am done wth making fun of her but it's so easy.
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    Feb 5, 2009, 05:18 PM

    Liz: lo yeah it is pretty easy :p I think both is right... both rehab, ad and eat something NOW! Haha

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