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Originally Posted by imation Why are we always attracted to the girl we know is no good? The girl thats fun to flirt with and hang out with but its obvious that they would totally destroy you if you were to pursue a relationship.
Like my situation right now, this girl i adore is completely not the kind of girl im looking for... she does things i have no interest in, she hangs out with the kind of people i wouldn't poke a stick at, she's a smoker... and so on
but everytime im with her or we're hanging out or just chatting (she works at a coffee place and i visit her often) sparks fly... we find ourself blushing, laughing, flirting and i really feel that something could work.
Honestly i think if i wanted to be with her i could start a relationship with her no problem... but its just the fact that the kind of person she is, is so different from what i thought i'd be attracted to... does that make sence? is it summative enough? lol
thanks for any advise on why im feeling this way |
Because she's fun to be with is why you like her. Nature doesn't give us templates of what we're going to be like and we stick to that rigidly
'She doesn't hang with the people you would' - are you finding her exciting as well as attractive? Little bit wild, here? Sounds like you have sexual chemistry going on, but it's what's left after the hormones have calmed down that you need to consider. Why don't you ask her for a nice lightweight casual date and do something she wants to and then if that works, go on another date doing someting you'd like to? Might be a learning curve for the pair of you, and just think of it as making a new friend, and not a new relationship?
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