Okay, before i start. I know about all the bad things about dating an older guy. Most of them are too desperate to get someone their own age, so they just use you for sex. and also it's illegal, etc.

But, I've known this guy for 2 years on msn, non stop talking.. We've been through a lot of heartbreak ONLY on msn. Anyways, we decided to meet up finally and we have been going out for 4 months. He is nerdy, yes i could say he is a little bit desperate, but he's had one girlfriend atleast and we were both virgins before we met. He is not rude, he's very polite and i've met his parents, he's met mine we just never told them we're dating.

A few months ago we decided to have sex, it felt like the time, although i didn't really want to but i just went along with it (This is soemthing i truly regret). I've told him that i don't feel comfortable having sex because i feel like we've moved to fast. he said ok, i'll wait till you're older. The next time we met he got an erection and said his balls hurt if he odoesn't get sex and he doesn't want to masturbate & watch porn. So we had sex again.

Well, I want to know if all 19yr old guys would date a 15yr old just to have sex. We tell eachother we love eachother everyday.

Please give me advice? Do you think this guy is just using me for sex?

thank you all.

iloveLf221

Yes. YES HE IS. In my opinion, you should not be dating this guy. If he's nineteen and he's dating a fifteen-year-old and if he's pressuring you into having sex then he is only using you for sex. Too bad if his balls are blue, it's not your problem. In my opinion, he has got to go.

lisa45

*sigh*. I'm going to decline sex with him for good reasons and see if he will actually wait, if he doesn't then he's gone. thanks

timtim-awesim

If he loves you he doesn't need sex to want to be with you. if he leaves you for holding out, he's a scumbag

timtim-awesim

Then again, if you tell him you will never have sex again (except maybe for kids) and he stays with you, he's a good dude and you should totally stay with him. Make sure he doesn't think you are bluffing though,

N0help4u

Tell him you just want to be friends for now and if he is not going to comply then you don't want to see him. When he uses the 'my balls hurt' line look at it as a con line trying to put you on a guilt trip.
If you really don't feel comfortable with him then most likely that is a sign that you should just avoid him all together.

rockerchick_682

You've already given him a good reason to wait, because it makes you uncomfortable. And then he pressured you again, because he only cares about the sex. Forget this guy, you're way too young to be having sex anyway.

N0help4u

Also as far as the 'my balls' hurt next time a guy tries to lay that one on you say "So if you happen to be with another girl or out in public and have this problem arise how do you handle it then?"

southerngalps

doesn't this answer your question? he took back what he said and basically made you feel quilty that he doesn't want to masturbate and watch porn to get off.

he connivingly had sex with you. that says a lot about his character. i think you should put this relationship on hold.

templelane

The fact that you fell for the 'my balls hurt' line is EXACTLY why he wants to date a 15 year old and not somebody his own age.

Maybe he does love you a bit but he used you and that is not real love.

I'd chalk this one down to a lesson learnt and tell him where to go. Even tell him why, maybe then he can learn from his mistakes too.