I'm not really sure what I should do, hence the question, but, to start things out I guess I'll give the basics. I'm 17 ( barely ), and my (ex?) boyfriend is 15, almost 16. Neither of us had ever had a relationship with someone until we met each other. We have been dating for 6, almost 7 months now, and I'm pretty sure I blew it. I think what happened was that we got too serious too quickly. But today, I tried asking him if we would make better friends or not, cuz I could see it going either way, and he rightly assumed that I was trying to break up with him, even though I kind of wasn't, I didn't know what I was trying to explain to him, and therefore couldn't find the words. Now I know what I really wanted was to slow down. I was afraid of my independence being taken away, and I picked a horrible time to tell him about it, so I could only get bits of details in. I feel like one of those cases where you don't know what you have until you lose it, and I'm afraid he won't want me back after what I've done today, and I honestly don't blame him for it. What should I do? Cuz this is the most down to earth, nicest guy I've ever met, and I didn't want to ruin it, but I'm pretty sure I did. Please help...

450donn

Nothing wrong with being friends. That is the foundation of a solid relationship when the time comes.
Friends first
Then marriage,
Then sex

HomeisNowhere

I know there's nothing wrong with being friends, but he's taking it REALLY hard, and I don't want him to do anything...stupid...I even got sick to my stomach just thinking about what he might do to himself and how much I hurt him. I want to help, but he probably wants to keep his distance from me too..I don't know what I should do (obviously) I mean, it would be pretty hypocritical to say in a nutshell one day that u think it might be better just to be friends/breakup and then the next be like oh hey how 'bout we just slow down >< but that's kind of how I feel..

JBeaucaire

Ask him to forgive you. We all get scared, we all say things we wish we hadn't. You won't get a second chance unless you swallow your pride and ask for it specifically. Take full responsibility for what you did and why. Be honest, but not pleady.

Also, until you are through this rough spot, you'll do all your communication in person. No texts and emails. Make sure he can SEE you and how sincere you are.