Hi. Well, me and this guy name robert barely became friends this summer. I met him from my little brother. He's my little brother's friend but he is older than i am. Hes a party guy and he likes to skateboard. one night he spent the night at my house because him and my bro and a couple of there friends we're hanging out and they all spent the night. Robert slept in my room and one thing lead to another, we made out. Thats all we did. After that we started hanging out a lot. Another night i spent the night at his house. He held me and told me he liked hanging out with me. He also said he liked Kissing me too. I really want to be in a relationship with him. I didnt want to rush into it so i just asked him what he thinks of Relationships. He said that he thinks they are pointless and he says that he thinks hes way too young for them. Two days later my bro and his friend came over to my house. i asked them who were they with earlier and they were like "oh i would tell you but they told me not to tell you their names." i was like "its Robert huh?" and they said yes. why would Robert not want me to know he was with them? weird. i dont know. im confused. honestly i dont think he wants to be in a relationship with me. but why would he tell me he liked hanging out and kissing me?


help me guys =[

GlindaofOz

Well you answered your own question. He likes hanging out and being able to kiss you without having a relationship. So you need to decide what your boundaries are. Robert has told you he does not want to be in a relationship but that does not mean that he will stop making out with you if you let him. He may have other "special friends" like you and does not want to have to give up the freedom to kiss whomever he wants.

You want a relationship and he does not. He is the only one who can decide that he is ready to be in a relationship and nothing you can do will switch his mind.

I would move on and find a guy who wants to be your boyfriend and will want you to be the only girl he kisses or hangs out with.

I know it stinks when guys do this stuff and it never makes sense. But what means something to us does not always mean the same thing to the other person. Which is a great lesson to learn but you always tend to learn it in a bad way.

If you want to be Roberts friend thats fine but I wouldn't let him kiss you anymore if he's not ready for a relationship.

Best of luck