ok im just going to get right into it. i met this girl in december from a friend. we starting hanging out then i spent the night a couple times and all of a sudden we were dating, the problem is she is in the middle of a divorce! she has only been married for 9 months, she only got married to her boyfriend so that she could move to cali instead of italy, we're all in the military. things were going good then she poped the I love you on me and the feeling was mutual and i said it back but we fell for each other really fast and i was pretty much living with here. after about 2 months of things going good she got spooked, I don't know what happened i think it has to deal a lot with the divorce, but I think she's just not ready for another relationship, she started not talking to me on thursday and it's only been a couple days now and i got all my stuff out of her house. now she never said she wanted space but i assume thats what she want's and needs but she wont even talk to me. I don't want to lose her but i don't know what to do and i don't want to keep pushing the subject and her pull away even more. I told her that when she's ready to talk i'llbe there and i'm only one phone call away if she ever needs anything and that whatever it is she is going through that it will end up turning out alright, i just wish she would fill me in on to what is happening. i'm attempting to give her, her space but it's not easy when we work in two buildings that share the same smoking pit and all i want to do is call her and i know it's not the right thing to do right now! Help!!!!! i feel like i'm having a anxiety attack, she means the world to me and now she's not there. she's a good hearted person with goals for life. the time spent together was wonderful, we told each other everything, the emotional connection we have is something i've never been apart of, i'm only 4 years older than her and we have gone through a lot of different things, but we also have more things incommon than we are different. we're both away from our family's and all we have out her are our friends.

How can i be there for her and yet not push her away, if anything I would rather keep her as a friend than not be able to ever see her again! or do i just let her do her thing and just wait for the day she calls and wants too see me again?

I've meet her soon to be ex-husband and he just said he wanted to see her happy and be taken care of

N0help4u

She wants her space, she knows you care and you are there, she has not attempted to include you in any way (at least not yet), you did the right thing moving out and giving her space. You just have to leave it alone and if and when she is ready she will let you know.
In the meantime if you push her for answers or pursue her you will only push her away.

She jumped from one relationship to another without stopping to get her breath or her frame of mind where SHE wanted to go from there, what SHE wanted or saw as a future for herself. She NEEDS to sort out all these questions and get direction in her life before she can have a stable future.