Okie Dokie! To start off with, There is this guy that i like. He really likes me too! We were kinda talkin for awhile last yr. But then i decided that i wanted to stay single instead of date him! honestly dont know why i didnt just go for it with him! We like each other so much! He is all i think about! Am i in love with this guy?! dont understand wat is goin on?! Now he has a girlfriend. I aint a homewrecker! I dont break ppl up. But we both still like each other! So wat do i do?! Should we jst wait and see if him & his current girlfriend work out?! I mean I dont just go around breaking ppl up!

ordinaryguy

You need to find another object for your obsession. Even if you manage to refrain from getting in their stuff and possibly breaking them up, you'll be miserable. Just let it go and go on about your life. There are lots of near-misses in life. Some of them would have been disasters and some of them would have been delights, but you have no way of knowing which. If you like, you can comfort yourself by thinking it would probably have been a disaster. Better yet, turn your attention elsewhere and get on with it. I know it's easier said than done, but it's a really useful skill to have and you have been given this golden opportunity to develop it. You are SO lucky!

valinors_sorrow

Good for you that you don't go around breaking anyone up!! Watch, learn and grow but wait for no one, Cowgirl. It sounds like you aren't dating but signing up for a relationship from the gate - which means to me you aren't really ready just yet.

Dating is keeping it light, non-committed, trying it out and letting each other get to know each other slooooooooooooooowly. It is not a committment to try and make love happen and when you succeed you get the prize - a boyfriend. You are still single when dating.

On the way to EVENTUALLY forming a relationship: we date to get to know others, we date the others who seem more interesting, we date them more and tell our friends about them, we date them exclusively (this is where is begins to take shape as a relationship), we date them exculsively and take them home to meet the family..... see now, sweetie?

No one should be expected to judge whether they want an exclusive relationship with someone they have yet to date and therefore don't know very well--its too big of a step.