Is 14 too young to date?

N0help4u

First date doesn't always stay first date and innocent kissing. Hormones do kick in and things do happen.
People do assume and report what THEY assume. I didn't say she shouldn't start a relationship with him but cautioning that later down the line she has to be cautious so take it slow until she IS of age.

We HAVE two recent posts on here within the past week on people asking if they can press charges because their minor daughter had a baby to their bf and then they broke up and now the daughters mother is pressing charges and trying to send the guy to jail.
The other is, a girls bf has to go back to jail for living with her and her baby because once you have a sex violation you are not allowed to be around kids at all no matter the circumstances.
So these girls that do whatever THEY feel are ruining these guys life's because they do not realize the life long consequences of them being 18 and their girl friend being 14.
Not only does it effect the guys life being on the sex offenders list everywhere he goes for the rest of his life, it can effect any gf that he might want to be with in the future, his decision to want kids someday, his kid finding out daddy having sex with mommy =me being born +daddy going to jail which could cause the baby to grow up blaming himself. It can also effect his getting hired at any decent job.

Romefalls19

Are you serious? How old are you? The law is put there to try and prevent child abductions and sexual predators! You have all these networking sites that are just playgrounds for pedifiles to sit and wait for kids who think they are "old enough" to pick who they date without any type of knowledge behind what they get themselves into. This is a completely different story if the other guy she wishes to date is also the same age because sure going to the movies and school dances is fine. But what you are suggesting is moronic(not you personally, just your suggestion) and to tell someone who is 14 years old to disregard the law is just wow.

DoulaLC

I think we are jumping the gun here in regard to the OP. Yes, the laws are there to protect everyone involved....those underage and the "adults". It goes both ways with gender....the young man could be underage and the girl older. Hopefully, and I know it doesn't always happen this way unfortunately, those dating would know each other well enough to know their ages and understand what the ramifications could be if they moved forward if age was going to be a potential issue. Sadly, some people...male and female, lie about their age....and ignorance doesn't protect you from the law.
The law isn't insignificant because it would indeed stop some from getting involved with someone not of age. My daughters have had guys interested and strick up a conversation with them only to back off when they found out they weren't as old as they thought they were.
However, in the case of the OP, she is 14 and the young man in question is 16.

Sofy123

No I stared Dating when I waz 10 years old

hjpan

And when did you open your legs...?

wataboutnow

You are really the only person that can answer that question. I wouldnt worry about the laws that bad because you are both pretty young.

ScottGem

One thing missing in all this is what do your parents say? Despite some of the responses here, its not you but your parents that decide. You are a minort and they are responsible for you.

In my opinion 14 is cutoff point when it becomes OK for a person to start one on one dating. At this age, however, the parents should meet and approve of the people you go out with.

Dating does not equal sexual activity, thought it can lead to it so that has to be considered.

talaniman

14 is old enough to have fun with friends, and do stuff over the weekend and call friends over the phone, not be alone unchaperoned, with the opposite sex, just the opinion of a parent.

onlymyself

It's not about law because I think that if you want to have sex you won't consider law but anyway that's not the point because I don't even think about having sex at the age of 14 and I know quite well what guys do to you but I'm strong because I had my heart played with =(.

We hanged out two times in a group and he seems caring and ok.
I know the majority would not approve but I didn't tell my parents about hanging in a group and I wouldn't tell them if I dated him too.
They would spend all week talking about it and finding excuses for me not to go out so I won't tell them.

ScottGem

And you are only confirming your parents reasons to control you by sneaking around behind their backs. They will eventually find out and you will be worse off. You are heading down a very bad path.