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Old Jul 5, 2009, 03:07 AM
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I Still Love My Ex

I know this is stupid but i still love my ex boyfriend. He hates my guts though an all i want to do is make it up to him an date him again. When he broke my heart i told him he would get payback an so i broke him an his new girlfriend up an thats why he hates me. He never told me anything though when we were dating he tolm my mete that he was going to brake up with me because i was to childish. Nw if i see him when i go out with my sister or mates an i see him he abuses me in front of everyone saying im a slut go die an lezzo. but even after all that i still love him an i want him back. What should i do because im really not sure??

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Old Jul 5, 2009, 05:03 AM   #2  
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In my humble opinion, the only appropriate answer is the one you don't want to hear: you can't make someone love you. Redirect your focus to yourself, friends and family. Honesty and trust are necessary for a relationship, and your's (and his) sounds short in supply. Be good to yourself and fake it til you make it.

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roxypox agrees: I love that! 'fake it until you make it'! well said!
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Old Jul 6, 2009, 01:13 PM   #3  
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why would you want someone back who hates you and said all those mean things to you? those are horrible things to do to you. if he doesn't want you back then he doesn't want you back and unfortunately there is nothing you can do about it except move on.
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Yeah, the only thing you can do is move on.... and if thats the way he treats you in public (even if you did something horrible, thats no way to speak to someone in public)... you should avoide him.

something also tells me that one of the reasons you stil love him/want him... might be because you can't have him... ???
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Old Jul 7, 2009, 11:21 PM   #5  
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Hello I know what your going through. I thought the same about my ex. But I came to my senses(after every text I sent him saying how sorry I was, after every phone call saying I wanted it to be the way it used to be). You have to come to term with yourself and relize he wasn't made for you but there is someone who is, but if your mopping over him he'll pass you by! So. Pick yourself up and find someone who will treat you with respect!
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You need to seek help immediately in my opinion. You sound unstable at best, fixated on a man who doesn't want anything to do with you. Going so far as to break your ex and his new girlfriend up is almost borderline creepy. Get some love for yourself and grow up. This isn't the movie "Fatal Attraction" and this guy isn't the only man on Earth. MOVE ON! People get their hearts broken all of the time, and revenge isn't the answer to a broken heart.

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How would you feel if you moved on and he came along and broke up you and your new boyfriend? Have you ever put yourself in his shoes wondering why he is so mad at you. Maybe he truly liked this other girl and now you only hurt yourself by trashing them. Maybe had you sat back and left it alone he would have realize she wasnt right and maybe came back to you. Not saying that would be the case. But you sure sound like you have no chance now. You have gained nothing by breaking them up but more hatred from the one you love. How old are you? Either way, leave him alone and move on.
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Old Jul 11, 2009, 12:05 PM   #8  
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i still love my ex, but i know the best thing to do is know it will never be what it was again, and don't let him talk to you like that, find someone new but learn from your mistakes and don't take any baggage into your next bundle i had to learn that the hard way too.
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Old Jul 11, 2009, 12:20 PM   #9  
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Your ex broke up with you as you were childish?
You broke your ex and new girlfriend up because you were jealous - so yes you proved his point you behaved very childish.

Your ex resents the fact you are trying to put your nose into his business when it does not involve you.

Your ex is not your property and he can date and should be able to go where he wants with who he wants without fear of bumping into you. If he sees you he shouts abuse - I kind of can not help but think you "just happen to appear wherever he goes and you make it clear to him you are there", that he his voicing his annoyance at you.

I think you are suffering from very low self esteem and your ego has been knocked back due to being dumped for being immature.

Stop acting so immature and maybe the next relationship you have will be more positive.
I am sorry to sound harsh but I have been on the receiving end of an ex trying to get back with me and thus ruin my life in the meantime of trying.

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