Someone told this guy I liked him ( Ive liked him for a long time but he never showed any unmistakeable interest in me before so I never did anything. we are both almost 20 and hes never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl before)

Good things:
-after he found out, one day he touched me on the shoulders at practice. It was weird- hes an instructor and he was showing me where to go. I went where he told me to go but he still touched me very lightly on both shoulders. I got a little freaked out because hes never touched me and Ive never seen him do that to other girls.
-another time at dinner when I sat next to him, i was talking and he patted me on the shoulder. again, it was weird, esp because he wasnt looking at me as he did it.
-a little later one weekend we got a little tipsy (i was only a bit, Im not sure about him. he def was not drunk. its hard to tell because he sometimes does this thing where he has 2 drinks and "pretends") he acted like he liked me, flirted. I didnt wanna read anything into it but some there said he might i think because he doesnt usually even flirt while drunk? I almost told him that night that I liked him. after the gathering I went to his room and said "lets talk" seriously but then totally chickenedout and just left without saying anything. he went "what happened?" and left me 2 voicemails. The second one said "hey, hope you got back to your room OK ill IM you tomorrow" and he did right away in the morning. I assumed he thought I was mad and thats why, but we arent close friends at all and he never brought it up. Hes very nice so I think he wants people to like him.

Bad things:
-The day after that night at lunch he waved to me but didnt come sit next to me. He doesnt usually sit with my friends so I guess that could be why, but he knows my friends at least so if he really did like me he could have sat next to me.
-He apparently told his friends he didnt like me. Im thinking because of this he doesnt. (Im not sure though, because he friends are very catty and immature. They meddled when they figured out I liked him. I never told them to do anything cause I hardly know them; apparently they pressured him a little. But this guy tends to tell his friends everything. after all of this I got pretty mad so I stopped hanging out with him and just pretended like they didnt exist. This guy kept asking a mutual friend why I wasnt responding to him and if I was acting weird around other people. Again I think this is him wanting everyone to like him)

I thought maybe I was just an ego boost to him. I am a very pretty girl, not trying to sound arrogant but people tell me. I dont think he has had alot of attractive girls like him. I think maybe he was just playing with me? I dunno that doesnt seem like him. Or maybe he thought he was interested but changed his mind.

I wont lie, I thought he might be gay. Other people have thought he might be too because hes extremely sensitive and is kinda catty too I guess but I dont see it as much. Im not sure about this because he has some gay tendencies but also some not so gay tendencies. but he has liked past girls apparently.

Scleros

And you haven't shown any unmistakeable interest in him. Stalemate.

Stop analyzing and start doing. Touch him back. If you want to analyze, analyze your own actions toward him from his perspective. What would you think?

JBeaucaire

What year in school are you?

Shake off all the drama. Stop getting your love concepts from your friends and bad TV...and definitely ignore drunken behavior.

If you think something is happening, walk over and ask him. Not your friends, no emails, no texts, no private obssessive "I wonder this...I wonder that"...just ask him.

If you can't just talk to guys you're beginning to take an interest in, how do you expect to actually date them? Whether he's shy or not, people will talk to you when you talk to them.

And when you talk to him, don't be crazy chick. Just talk. Ask questions, tell stories, laugh, grumble, just talk.

If he sticks around through all that, he likes you...enough to consider asking him out. If he doesn't, there you go. No harm, no foul.