[justbanter]

My best buddy who is half my age, started hanging out with me for about 4 years ago. About one year ago he started hanging out with other guys. There he met X who is about 2-3 yrs older than him. Since then D's body language with me has changed. For a while it seemed as if D had terminated our friendship. But now D has restarted the old contact with me and calls me daily, but I have observed that whenever X is around, they are in a world of their own. D is all smiles with X and he puts his arm around X and they have a lot of physical contact and play. Before X came into the picture D and I had a lot of physical contact. But now if I try to put my arm around D he rejects me very strongly. Also X tries to put me down sometimes.

I have been observing D and X and I am very puzzled by their unusual friendliness. Whenever all three of us are together D looks at me from time to time to see whether I am observing them. I have a gut feeling that X and D could be gay, or that X might have said something to separate D and me.

Could it be that X and D are gay? D is very much heterosexual while I have observed strong gay behavior in X and he wears a lot of flashy clothes and stuff. Could he be trying to seduce D? I have been bugged by this sudden new found familiarity. What is the nature of their friendship? Has D chosen X over me because of our age gap? :confused:

[phillysteakandcheese]

It's impossible for us to know what the relationship between X and D is. We are not there watching everything happen... We can only speculate...

It doesn't really matter whether X, D, or you, are gay. What does matter is that your "friend", D, is isn't acting like much of friend to you. Whatever the reason for that may be, the result is the same - you're the third wheel.

I don't know if you can "save" your friendship with D or not. All you can really do is tell him how you feel, and let him make the choices on who he wants to spend time with.