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    confused777 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    May 27, 2008, 03:25 PM
    Involved with someone in a relationship and am lost
    Does anyone have any advice on where to go in a relationship with a married man? We had the best relationship and now things have changed in dramatic way. He wants to work things out in his marriage, but I feel as if I have given up my life to be with him and he should do the same for me.?
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    May 27, 2008, 03:37 PM
    You will always be second. If he's telling you he wants to work it out with his wife, than that's exactly what you will always be. You deserve better! Also, always remember the word "karma"... don't meddle in other people's lives. Find someone else! I know it hurts, but you will get through it. Take care!
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    May 27, 2008, 03:44 PM
    Where to go in the relationship?

    How about as far away as possible. He was using you. We see this story over and over again. There is no way that he will leave his marriage for you, he has been lying to you the entire time. He was able to have a marriage at home and have you as a little action on the side. Do what's best for you, and drop him.
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    May 27, 2008, 07:25 PM
    How would you ever be able to trust him either... If he has done this to his wife what makes you think he wouldn't to you when things got stale. You should have ran for the hills when you found out he was married.
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    May 27, 2008, 07:28 PM
    He is not obligated to you but to his wife. That simple. He does not need to give anything to you in return whether you feel that way or not. So time to end this and move on.

    Joe
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    May 27, 2008, 07:38 PM
    Where to go? How about the closest mirror...

    Stare at that person in the mirror as long as necessary until you clearly see who she is NOW and who you wish she were instead.

    Right now you see a mistress seeking to interject herself into another family, tearing them apart, getting what she wants because of her own selfish needs. Right now she is a person who is getting what she deserves... she pursued an unavailable man and now is left with nothing.

    Don't you WISH you saw a woman who deserved a man of character and commitment, who chooses to be at her side and in her bed because there is no other place he could imagine being? Don't you WISH you saw a woman who had developed a heart and mind that can demand proper behavior from the committed people in her life?

    Don't you WISH you saw a woman who never had to fear her man would ever be stolen away by some homewrecker, because the guy she's with has never done that ever in his life... left his devoted wife for someone else?

    Don't you wish?

    Keep looking into that mirror until you start to see the possibilities of a GREAT and honorable life. Then go and get it. Lose his number.
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