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alfamale · May 7, 2009, 09:37 AM

I went to jail for about a year and my girl was with two other people. The first time she told me that it was a big mistake and she was sorry, but then she did it again. I was getting letters and calls but then all the sudden it stopped. She said that she was going to come see me on my b-day to figure it all out and talk to me. So my dumb took the people who really loved me (family) off the visitation list and put her down. She didn't show up,which really added to all the pain but on top of that she wouldent even pick up the ohone to give me any reason at all. That's when I found out later by her that she was seeing the second guy. I got out and got back with her when I haven't talked to her in months, what am I thinking? Anyway things just don't feel the same I feel so ashamed that I'm with her but still don't want to hurt her by leaving her. But when is enough enough? All I can do is think about how she left me when I was down and out, to me that's just not love. Your supposed to be there for someone when there down not kick them. I'm just confused, there are other women who try to talk to me but I won't do that cause I don't want to hurt her. What is wrong with me and what should I do?

jmw0713 · May 7, 2009, 09:44 AM

Action speak louder than words. She slept around while you were away. She didn't even come visit you. That should show you how much she cares about you and your feelings.

I think it's only fair to yourself to leave her and start over with someone else.

Why be involved with something if you're not happy with it?

kctiger · May 7, 2009, 09:44 AM

Enough is enough when you man up and decide it is. For me, once is ENOUGH. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on ME.

I wish · May 7, 2009, 09:46 AM

She cheated twice already. I think that's enough torture for you. You don't need to put up with that anymore. Time to move on with your life.

You're out of jail, it's time to start a fresh life. Correct your past mistakes. Don't look back. Keep moving forward and make yourself a better person without that cheater in your life.

talaniman · May 7, 2009, 09:57 AM

Take her off the list, and put family back on it. You have enough to think about without her.

Leave her alone.

liz28 · May 7, 2009, 10:30 AM

If you couldn't deal with her cheating ways you shouldn't had took her back. It even you forgive her or you don't?

What do you mean your afraid of hurting her feelings? When the shoe was on the other foot she wasn't afraid of hurting yours? And she let you down how many times?

Time for you to be honest with her and move on. There is no sense in staying with someone when your heart isn't in it.

Romefalls19 · May 7, 2009, 11:46 AM

Drop this girl, it's only going to get you in more trouble. She's not worth it, get your life back on track without the lying cheating female

HighandDryinnNy · May 7, 2009, 12:05 PM

Part of you picking up the pieces of your life when you got out involved changing people places and things. You can't do the same things and expect different results. I don't know why you went to jail, but the girl couldn't remain faithful. Its time to do something different, something positive that will affect your life in a positive way. You said you feel ashamed, nothing positive can come out of that. Take the first step to improving your life by doing what's right and moving on. She may want to move on too, but feels guilty for what she did, so she sticks it out too. Either way, this isn't right for you, do what is.

N0help4u · May 7, 2009, 12:19 PM

She didn't stick with you through the thick and the thin.
You have two options
Talk things over with her and see if she is going to be stronger and faithful. If she is young she may have been making stupid decisions and giving her the benefit of the doubt may work but you need to discuss and let her know from here on out if she cheats again its over and that's final.

If you really don't trust her and don't have the feelings you had for her break up with her.
If you can't work it out then you are living a lie as well as she was.

HistorianChick · May 7, 2009, 12:38 PM

You deserve monogamy. She hasn't given that to you.

When people are in a relationship, they should be IN the relationship. Not cheating around, not breaking promises, not lying.

You have every right to want to be #1 in your partner's life.

I'm sorry, but I say that it's time to move on.

dev514xozx · May 9, 2012, 05:32 PM

The sins of the past do not out wheigh the sins of the future, they are equally wrong.