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    blueeyedbeauty Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Mar 6, 2010, 12:40 AM
    Should I give it a go or head for the hills?
    Sorry for this being so long... but it's a complicated and confusing situation! Well about 2 weeks ago I met this guy. Outwardly he seemed very well put together and a perfectly fine guy (although he hasn't really done anything to change this) well that first night we were out with friends and he pretty much asked me to go out (I don't even know if he considered it a date or night). At the end of the night (after he had a couple to drink) me and him left and he just started kissing me out of the blue. Needless to say, I wasn't expecting this. Caught up in the moment we went into my car and made out and I ended up given him oral sex.

    The next evening we did indeed go out and everything went well, he acted a gentleman. We went out to eat and to the movies. He kissed me in the parking lot, held my hand while walking, through the movies, kissed me on my forehead, etc. We went back to his place (nothing happened) and just cuddled.

    Well, apparently from what I've been told he's not a real big texter, so I'm not shocked when I often have to initiate the conversation (not all the time though). We went out twice last weekend and even Monday and Thursday night (so I'm taking it he somewhat enjoys my company). Well, one day this week, we got into one of those "what do you consider us conversation" in which he brought up the fact that I was a virgin (but didn't seem to be bothered by it) and said that he was very skilled in lovemaking. He did strike me as a bit cocky when he told me that he had any number of women after him at a time. I proceeded to ask him if he was talking to any other girls, and he replied, "Nope not at the moment". He also told me that if he was only interested in sex, he wouldn't put the effort into being nice and spending time with me. But anytime we are out in public, he holds my hand, puts his arm on my leg, etc. Something bothered me today though when we were talking though. He told me that within the past year he had dated 7 women. Is this too many women? Does it indicate some kind of macho man complex? So should I stick with it and see where it goes or head for the hills and break it off?
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    I wish Posts: 5,296, Reputation: 2030
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    Mar 6, 2010, 09:13 AM

    Seems pretty clear that he wants a friends with benefits type of arrangement.

    If you're not on the same page as him, you're setting yourself up to get hurt.

    I would say walk away before this gets any worse.

    If you really wanted a more serious relationship with him, then let him know and see what he does.
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    Mar 6, 2010, 10:03 AM

    I got the total opposite impression. I thought maybe he was interested. I would hold out though on having sex with him, especially if you are still a virgin. Let your first time be with someone to whom you know really well and feel comfortable with.
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    Mar 6, 2010, 10:14 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by blueeyedbeauty View Post
    He also told me that if he was only interested in sex, he wouldn't put the effort into being nice and spending time with me.
    Seems pretty clear that he only wants friends with benefits, unless there's a type-o somewhere?
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    Mar 6, 2010, 11:26 AM

    One way to find out a guys level of interest is to see what he does without the promise of sex at anytime.

    You can enjoy getting to know him well as long as you don't get carried away by lust or intense feelings, or high expectations. He has said he dates a lot, and I see nothing wrong with that as he is honest about it, but that shouldn't pressure you to do anything you don't want to.

    Your supposed to have fun dating and getting to no someone better without commitment, as that's way down the road, and you have the same option of dating others, and having fun as he does. Why should he be the only one to have other options, and opportunities for a good time?

    I think it boils down to keeping it real and honest, and keeping things in perspective.

    Or maybe giving him head on the first date has him wanting more, so be careful with that, while he gets all touchy feely, and makes you want more.

    Never get so caught up in the physical emotions, you can't see reality.

    Its only been 2 freakin' weeks my gosh, he is still a stranger.
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    Mar 6, 2010, 05:01 PM
    Tread cautiously, you haven't ever had a sexual relationship and this guy is already ringing your alarm bells...

    He's boasted about his sexual prowess
    He's claimed to have a lot of women chasing him
    He's said he's only interested in sex
    He's said he's dated many women

    The one thing to always be observant of is your own responses to people. You're already uncomfortable and unsure and it's only been two weeks!

    Is this the sort of man you want to lose your virginity to?

    Trust your intuition. Run for the hills.

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