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Asked Jul 3, 2012, 01:26 PM — 13 Answers
Should I care what my girlfriends parents say about me?

My girlfriends parents dont like me at all. I cant come in her house. I can't get in her mothers car. I'm a nice guy. I love her. We have been dating for 2 years. They talk trash about me. They want her to forget me? She is 16 years old and I'm 19.

How is this gone work when she becomes 18? Should I like them for that? Should I care what they say? Should my girlfriend step up, and say something to them?

Can somebody help me!!!!!!!!!

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Jul 3, 2012, 01:39 PM


well, since she is underage, if you continue to see her in defiance of her parents you can get in a heap of trouble.

But if you wait until she is 18 and resume the relationship, they may admire you for waiting and see the futileness of their objections.
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Jul 3, 2012, 01:55 PM


What are they saying about you?
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Jul 3, 2012, 02:03 PM
Depends what they are saying about you, and why.

You need to calm things down before you get in trouble, remember that if she is underage things can go very badly for you. Back off, wait till she is 18, respect the parents decisions till then, and then she and you can do whatever you want. Alternatively, talk things out with the parents, why don't they like you? What is it that they talk trash about?
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Jul 3, 2012, 05:11 PM


The fact that you started dating their daughter when she was 14 and you were 17 may be one reason they don't care for you.
Back off from her until she turns 18. She should not defy her parents because of you and it is not fair to expect her to.
What are they saying about you?
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Jul 3, 2012, 05:32 PM
It sounds like they don't like a 19 year old around their child. After that you have no choice of what to do,

You can hate it, ain't a thing you can do about it. You can be mad, does not matter.

You have to stay away from the 16 if that is what her parents want.

So follow their rules and they may respect you adn learn to like you if you do and act exactly they way they asy.

if you don't obey them, they will only hate you more
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Jul 4, 2012, 08:41 AM
You can be the nicest guy in the world, but they obviously don't want their minor daughter to be romanced by such an older guy who is a grown man now. I am suprised that they haven't taken stronger measures to keep you from her, like calling the law!

You better be careful guy, she still has a couple of more years until she is 18, and legal, and you can still end up in deep DO DO!!
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Jul 4, 2012, 12:41 PM
You're still young. It takes time to earn someone else's trust. Of course it doens't look good when a 19 year old dates a 16 year old.

For now, focus on continuing to be a good person. It's much harder to be the good guy, so as long as you stick to your guns, someone will eventually see it.

I'm going to say that you're going to need some patience if you want her parents to eventually start liking you.

But for now, focus on buliding a strong relationship with your girlfriend first. If you don't even have a strong relationship with her, then it doesn't matter what's going on around her.
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Jul 4, 2012, 02:03 PM
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But for now, focus on buliding a strong relationship with your girlfriend first. If you don't even have a strong relationship with her, then it doesn't matter what's going on around her.
But here is the problem. How is the OP going to build any sort of relationship with his girl if her parents forbid them to see each other? If the parents say no relationship then he can't build anything.
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Jul 4, 2012, 03:52 PM
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The fact that you started dating their daughter when she was 14 and you were 17 may be one reason they don't care for you.
Back off from her until she turns 18. She should not defy her parents because of you and it is not fair to expect her to.
What are they saying about you?
they liked me for the first 1year and 8months. but they just stop liking me. her mother said i turned my girlfriend agianst her!
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