I need some more honest answers and thank you lenova for your first answer, I have added more info after Lenova answered for this post.

I am interested in a girl at work and I come across her everyday during lunch time. It looks that she has interest towards me, and last week I asked her would you like to go out for coffee sometime, and she answered me "I don't know". I in reply not knowing what to say, replied to her "Let me know" and walked away. As, I was walking she called me and said Thank you "Myname". I told her you are welcome! I wanted to ask you long back, but I thought this was the time.

After this, we still see each other and we talk, but I have never opened up to her again about asking her out as I am not sure what she is going on in her mind so wanted to give her time. This week, we talked couple of times for a short while and she understands that when there are lots of customers she would not talk, neither do I and when she isn't busy then if I have to go there, then we will talk for sometime.

I am a shy person, I can talk to someone on the phone or online or once I get to know the person well. I will talk anything and everything. But, until I know the person I have the starter problem. Even though I am a grown up guy who is divorced and has kids. Used to be very friendly, talkative, humourous and used to joke often. But, after a bitter divorce and hurt relationships which was not sincere from the women's end, I kind of became bitter and hard on myself. Its only now after 5 years, I am getting out of my shell and wanting to try something new. She seems to be a young women in her 20s. So, I am kind of wondering, whether this would work out, or is it fair for me to go ahead even proceeding to ask her out the second time.

Then, this week when she was kind of trying to take the card from my hand to swipe, she kind touched me and I thought it was kind of a sign too and I am not sure sure whether this is a sign that she is interested? Next, before leaving for the weekend, I went to get a cup of coffee, she was sitting on one of the tables facing towards me as I was walking. I went and picked up the coffee and then she walked to the counter to collect the money. I paid her and asked her what are you "Day Dreaming"? she said, no I am not well having flue from yesterday. Then I asked her did you take medication, and then said take care and told her have a nice weekend. She turned and said, I am working this weekend. I just shook my head like as if I was feeling sorry for her that she had to work and walked away.

I am a foreigner and she is white. So, I am not sure whether she is thinking about all that. She has always spoken to me nice, she has served me well and I really like her, I atleast want to start knowing her better.

Also, one day she asked me whether we sell old computers in our dept, I said "Yes", then she said, my colleague wants to know whether it is available? Can you check out and give her a call. Her extension is XXXX. I said, ok. This was the time, I asked her out for coffee (which was my first sentence in this post). I started like this after she gave me the extension number. I wanted to ask you something? She asked what? I said, "Would you like to go out for coffee sometime?" That's when like a shock for her she said "I don't know"......


I think a women can understand what a women is thinking, so any women or men please help me out.

thanks guys and gals in advance! I want to make sure that I ask her out this week hopefully again after seeing your answers.

FrOsT_bItE

Go ahead for it. It sounds like she is also interested in you. However, take the question slow this time. Try not to make it sound like your desperate and in a hurry to be with her. Maybe you could start out being good friends. I find that this always helps, because that way you both have full trust and respect between each other.