ive been dating this girl for about 2 months and superficially, shes perfect; gorgeus, smart, funny, quirky..

a major problem though is that she cant communicate her feeling with me. we had serious talks about 3 weeks ago about where our relationship was going and all she could say was "i dont know" or "i like you, and i want to be with you", but thats all she could say. we she took one day of space and then called me and said lets "start over" and i said, what the hell, its better than breaking up, bc i do really like her. the next two weeks were fine

to this point though, i feel like im making all the effort in the relationship..we havent had sex yet, i couldnt perform twice bc i was a bit scared bc it would be my first time..while she was a bit upset at the time, she SAID it was no big deal, and the timing just wasnt right. i know its early in the relationship, and right now, i think shed still rather hang out with her friends more than me. whatever no big deal.

well its xmas break, and we live 6 hours away from each other. i have decided not to contact her, text her, or ask to come see her, bc i brought it up several times to meet up over the break, and she basically said no each time..maybe by me not calling her, itll make her realize what shes going to lose.

what should i do? do you think thisll work?

anyone who has responded to my other posts, dont even bother reading...lol sorry

Collegekid6301

don't let your strong feelings for her cloud your good judgment. if you think you can see that she isn't interested, don't put yourself out there any more than you have to. don't become a doormat either though. it's good that you decided to not contact her. if she is interested, this might spark her interest and now she will start taking the initiative in some elements of the relationship. if she doesn't however, this could be your final sign that she really isn't interested. i know this might not be what you WANT to hear, but this could act as a final closure on any confusion you have. it should also be a sign that you should get your head back in the dating game (if you think you're ready) and try to meet some new ladies. no one said you had to jump into a new relationship...but dating is a great way to take your mind off the past, meet new people, and possibly open up some doors into new relationships. in the end though, this is just advice. you should read this, take it into consideration, but be sure to make your own decision based on how YOU feel. hope this helps!

simoneaugie

No contact over the break is probably a good idea. Let her resume the relationship once school starts again. Find someone else. She may not be the one for you at the moment. It sounds like you would like to get serious with someone. She wants to play. So, maybe the two of you will get together later, after a couple of years.

templelane

It's only been two months I think you are rushing things. Also as the others said perhaps she can't communicate her feelings because, well, she doesn't have any to communicate.
Take it slow if at all.