Seeing a married man

Yes I have. Get out now. No good can come from this.

I hope he does not have children.

Call and talk to his wife. Tell her how sorry you are. Let her know how hard it is to let him be, married. See what she says.

Leave. Don't say anything to anyone. Just go and don't look back.

Stop seeing him.

Change your phone number.

Tell him that once his divorce is final, you'll be happy to date him--but that you would like a copy of the divorce papers before you'd even consider it.

Then stop talking to him. Period.

I have to agree that you need to end the relationship.

A married man is not available. Period.

What struck me here as well, is that you were seeing him nearly a year before you knew he was married. He is hardly a person of character, or trustworthy. I would consider anything he says to be a lie.

I don't think simoneaugie deserved a 'reddie' for her/his response. It is just an opinion, and no opinions are wrong. It is worthwhile considering that side of the coin, as far as his wife is concerned. If it were you, how would you feel. If there are children, this makes it worse for all concerned. Chances are his wife knows about you, and do you want to risk a confrontation with her?

Ending a relationship is very, very hard, no matter what the circumstances are. Love is a very strong bond. I hope you find the strength to get out of that relationship, and into a relationship that doesn't start off with a lie, and a relationship that has a healthy future.

YOU deserve at least that much.

He lied to you for a year, didn't tell you he was married and you want a relationship with him? He lied to you, he's lying to his wife, he's a liar and an adulterer.

You're nothing but the "other women", you'll never be "the women". If you stay with him, and he leaves his wife, it's just a matter of time until someone better comes along and he does the same thing to you.

Get out now, this is a dead end.

When you have the time read the threads from other women in your situation.

Going down this road on lead to misery. Then it will turn into denial, anger, and major heartache. Is this what you want?

This guy didn't even tell you from the start he was married and regardless of your feelings for him you should've left. He will never leave his wife and will lie to you about everything while feeding you everything you want to hear. Being the other women is never good so leave him and find someone that is single and wants to be with you so that you can be the only woman in their life. Doesn't that sound much better.

Otherwise, stay and be misery and let him have his cake but I wonder what other female is giving his desert. Hmm! Oh yeah, this isn't love.

He's fighting to be with you because he is getting what he needs from you that he is not getting from his wife, and getting everything from his wife that he doesn't get with you.

He is just using you for his needs.

If he left his wife and divorced, then that is a different story.