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Oct 10, 2009, 03:45 AM
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| | | secret affair wot should i do
Ok.. about a month ago I finally met this girl i been talking to for about a year.. but, we both were in a relationship, we hit it off right away and now i really like her and she says she really likes me we want to be with each other.. we agreed to finish with our other half's.. so i did and now she says she is worried about ending it with her 2 year bf but she doesn't know why she's worried? ?? ? .. tho she says she doesn't love him.. any ideas on what i should do or what she could be worried about? and no one knows about us apart from her mum and sister who both think its a good idea to get with me
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Oct 10, 2009, 04:14 AM
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| I'd say you've been given the 'bait and switch'. You thought you were getting a new girlfriend, and she decided to stick to the old one.
I would say that if she was unable to follow through with the plan, you are not in the picture. She is still with her boyfriend, and you have been given a false promise.
This isn't so much 'her' problem as you suggest, but your problem, as you bought into a future with someone who ultimately decided not to have a future with you.
I would say let her go, stop seeing her on the side, and move on with your life. Find someone who is available, or single and not in a relationship. |
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Oct 10, 2009, 05:14 AM
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| good answer.. think she just worried about wot he will do or he's reaction, cos he treats her like and b4 now has thrown a glass bottle at her which busted her eye, think i will giv it a few days .. if not i'll do as u suggest  | |
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Oct 10, 2009, 05:38 AM
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| Since she seems to want to stay in a relationship that's abusive, that's an indicator that she's not emotionally healthy. That said, you're better off without her. I just hope you didn't ruin a perfectly good relationship for yourself on her account. it almost sounds like she manipulated you into dumping your current girlfriend for absolutely nothing. In the future you should make your own decisions and control your own situations rather than letting someone else decide for you. | |
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Oct 10, 2009, 12:43 PM
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| s cianci.. thanks for your answer but it real isnt how u make it sound there.. it was my decition anyway no one elses.. she is emotionly healthy just to nice to dump her bf lol.. jake 2008, wot do u think ? | |
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Oct 10, 2009, 02:57 PM
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| Harshness Alert!
Fact-You were going behind your partners back to explore more than a friendship with another female. That makes you a lying cheater.
Fact- When it looked good with her you dumped your partner. That makes you an uncaring lying cheater.
Fact-She wasn't ready to dump hers and she didn't, that makes her a liar.
Fact- She says she is in an abusive relationship, that makes her emotionally unhealthy because she stays, IF SHE IS TELLING THE TRUTH, as she has already lied.
Fact-She knows you an uncaring lying cheater so why should she take a chance on you??
Did I miss anything here??? Oh, she cheats on her boyfriend with you but doesn't leave him.
Your probably going to go back to the female you cheated on, and dumped, and beg her forgiveness. Hope she tells you to get screwed.
PLEASE NOTE- YOU DON'T HAVE TO JUST HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE, OTHER THAN YOUR PARTNER, TO BE A CHEATER. | |
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Oct 10, 2009, 03:06 PM
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| You probably broke your girlfriend's heart thinking that the grass was greener on the other side.
You reap what you sow.( you get what you deserve)
No matter how wonderful her family thinks you are, she is with someone else.
Does her family know the WHOLE story? That you are a cheater? I'm sorry, if the shoe fits........
If someone will cheat WITH you, they will cheat ON you. | |
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Oct 10, 2009, 03:18 PM
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| haha go mad on ya answers.. no we havnt cheated lol.. not even kissed.. and i wernt happy in my relationship anyway so the grass is greener if or if not this cituation works out lol | |
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Oct 10, 2009, 04:01 PM
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| Quote:
Originally Posted by denisoner  haha go mad on ya answers.. no we havnt cheated lol.. not even kissed.. and i wernt happy in my relationship anyway so the grass is greener if or if not this cituation works out lol | How old are you?
"wernt"? "cituation"?
You plotted to leave your boyfriend/girlfriend, that's cheating all the same. | |
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Oct 10, 2009, 04:14 PM
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| Sorry, no she is not emotionly healthy if she is staying with someone that was phsycially abusive, she shows from your "little" info, all the standard sings of accepting the abuse and feeling perhaps that she may even deserve it.
Next they often go back 3 or 4 times before they may finally leave, but often they will end back up with another abusive person. | |
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