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You basically calling me a loser based on my posts, which I ask here occasionally (ie once every 4-5 months) just to get some objective views on issues, is really great advice.

All I know is I'm...

Two years ago I told a friend (who is on the shy side) I had feelings for him, and was rejected by him.

I decided I wanted to maintain/save the friendship, so after a little time, we started...

So my friend told me this guy told her he liked me.

But once I showed interest he just disappeared.

Has this happened to anyone? Was it just for the chase/mystery? Maybe he met someone else?
...

I feel it may be too soon to discuss things, as it is all very new.
May be I'll go with backing off a bit, and if he contacts me at least then I'll know he's putting in some effort.

Thank you...

So there's a guy I've been hanging out with... it's been a bit obvious that we like each other, and we finally spent the night together.
Now things are awkward... he used to call me more often... he...

How excited people are about birthdays differs from person to person.
But at this point he should know that it's a big deal for you. You should accept the apology... but I definitely agree with not...

Perfectly smart guy I started seeing, good conversationalist in person (though he claims to be 'shy'), but his texts and emails are minimal. At this point I would even consider them rude. And we've...

OK so he called to apologize and said he really wants to see me but his work load the next week is very busy, going out of town for a bit, then will have time.
That's fine but I'm a bit...

So we've been friends for about three months.
He called to ask me out on 'dates' a few times.We're both shy, but seem to like each other.
We had to reschedule recently, and talked about meeting up ...

So once every few months/years, depending on what is going on in my life at the time, many of my old grief issues come back. (about 6 years ago my boyfriend died).

I feel I have already dealt...

He called to say a few days after I posted that last note saying he'd been busy (which of course I don't buy as an excuse).
Now he sends me flirty emails about once a week, but we have yet to...

But why does he have to keep on calling/visiting me every 2 minutes? I enjoy it and don't want him to stop or back off... but why, especially since he knows how I feel.

It's normal to regret a break up sometimes... but if it makes it any easier, just keep in mind that things won't change. Tell yourself that you are better off without him, especially if you want a...

Thanks everyone, this really helped. I have been losing perspective and getting too attached, it'll be good for me to hang out with other friends for a bit and let both of us have some space.
Who...

So I met this guy over 3 years ago, and I kind of liked him at the time but I wasn't ready to date, we were in a complicated environment, so we just settled into a friendship. Over the years he...

Thanks, I think you're right...
I was just a bit surprised considering how much he had pursued me before. And a bit sad.

:(So I met this guy about a month ago, and he had been asking me out but I was not ready to date anyone at that time. Last week, I finally accepted and we went to dinner and a movie and it was...

Any luck? I am curious now want to find this song too. Your first link isn't working is it the same quality as the second one or better? The second one is a little difficult to hear

There are many versions, the waifs is one of them.

"On Days Like These" by Matt Monro?

It sounds like you may be expecting too much from him... which could potentially scare him off because of the pressure it places on him.
I agree with ISneezefunny, if you are dealing with issues of...

I know this doesn't really answer your question, but it sounds like it may be worth it to step back and examine the situation with the guy you're dating altogether.

If you just met and you...

I think it's called swan song

It sounds like you're so caught up worrying about making sure he's happy that you're not really thinking about yourself. Why did you tell the girlfriend that you want him to be happy when you were...

I would consider writing him and email, more to get closure for yourself than to rekindle anything. Who knows what is going in his life, but it does seem like he's disinterested. Maybe.
Some people...

This is serious, and this is not something you can solve by yourself. Talk to her initially, and find out the reason. If it is a reason that does not involve her family, talk to them. She may be...

My suggestion? See if it is possible to hang out with her outside of when the families get together- at least that way you can start gaging her interest level outside of being a family obligation. ...

She sounds confused. And she's put you in the awkward position of constantly having to hear about her ex which is a bit much. In a way you're being too understanding? What about your feelings? And...

Why are you still friends with the girl?
Also, does he give YOU the attention you want from him?

It sounds like you've already made up your mind. Figure out who you really want to be with. If you don't love your current guy (wait, so you guys have only been dating for a week?), then break it...

I'm not sure how to bring it up or if I should. We started talking about it before, and he kind of freaked out, and he's been weird since then. He's been kind of avoiding me (though he still calls...

You always have the option of saying "call/visit me when you're single". That way you don't close the door completely in case you are curious to see if he really is your soul mate. At the same time...

So to be clear:he was your boyfriend and then she started going out with him? Was she your best friend at the time? What you end up doing kind of depends on that situation
If she is a good friend...

Who does he think he is? God's gift to women?

Yes! You're right... I've done enough, he has to be the one who takes it from here. And if he can't do that for whatever reason, then I move on.
(always easier said than done)

This isn't much info to go by... but don't try to read between the lines... he likes you but doesn't love you. Accept it and move on, you'll meet someone who loves you.

So this guy I like ( we are just friends, NOT dating, but he knows I like him) is giving weird mixed signals and keeps on acting hot/cold. I believe he's a little (alot) shy... (yes or he could be...

It sounds like you kind of want him to pursue you... give him a chance to do so, it is a nice feeling having someone else initiate things and it sounds like you miss that. So backing off slightly...

Thank you for thoughts. Just to make clear though, as I mentioned before, he is not seeing anyone at all right now. And we're not exactly dating.

So if someone is blowing hot/cold, should I back off more?
This guy is really confusing me. He knows I like him, but he seems very hesitant. He acts strange when we're around people, very nervous...

I am interested in a man, we are not dating, he said he likes me very much. But I am start to get the strange feeling if he is asexual or maybe still in the closet. Does anyone know what some signs...

It's only been 2 1/2 months, maybe he's not ready to call you girlfriend, but you're not exactly just a 'friend' either? So 'good friend' makes a bit more special than just 'friend'-

If things are...

Any insights on traits of cancer men, when it comes to love and relationships?

Thank you for all the help. Yes yes I know the email no-no, but it was really the only communication available the last few days- (and it wasn't like I wrote "you're the love of my life let's hang...

I think I'm really falling for him, interested in the more long term possibility- too soon to consider marriage, but nothing casual either.

But that's getting ahead of myself- he hasn't even...

Well... despite your advice I kind of hinted to him for us to have an outing, just the two of us without our usual group of mates. This was yesterday, and I still haven't heard back from him... am...

Calm down. Keep yourself busy and work on your own life and maintain independence. Give him some breathing room because otherwise you'll push him away. Maintain some mystery, not in the mind game...

Yep it's too soon- which is surprising considering he's older and probably knows the difference between real love and infatuation-
Sometimes people can get carried away in the beginnings of a...

I agree. F you work together maybe try to find time to talk to her in person? It'll be less formal, and that way you can avoid the awkwardness in case she does not want to go out.
But, if you really...

Have you ever realized one day, be it via a slow progression or sudden moment (or a little of both), that you are falling for a friend?
I seem to be in this situation, and am not sure what to do......