Question(s) for guys:

Is it that hard to approach a pretty girl?
Is it that hard to make that first move even though you're a confident guy?

Nosnosna

It all depends. A lot of us have a tendency to overthink... once we decide we want to do something, we start thinking about ways to approach the girl. Then we start thinking about reactions to the approach, and start getting paranoid about having not thought about it enough to figure out what the right approach is.

So yeah... if we think about what we're doing, it's hard. When we live in the impulse zone, it's easy.

kristynn

Why do some guys just keep on staring ... yet not making a move?

I just need your opinion, guys

chosen1

well girl... i when a girl looks at me and smiles like she wants to meet....i'll casually come introduce my self...lots of guys are scarred of getting shot down...they dont have any balz..but ya i think the better lookin girls are a hair harder to come up to.... whats the worst that can happen.. the girl is un-interested.....

Tony J

I think that it is very hard to initiate conversation with an extremely attractive girl. I always try to use the chameleon effect to my advantage after starting a conversation as it is a good measure of how a person is reacting subconsciously to me through their body language. I would say that it is definately harder to talk to a very attractive girl as opposed to a average or slightly above average girl. A guys confidence is something that is very subjective as everyone has different levels of confidence. I would say that we stare because of biological reasons. We want youy to see us stare and hope that you will give us some encouragement to initiate conversation.

kristynn

Thanks Tony.

Yet, what do you do if the girl seems to be shy to give you that encouragement to initiate a conversation?
What if she simply stares back? Just the way you stare at her...

Tony J

If you have someone in particular than why not talk him up? Maybe when you walk past them or any type of close contact you could offer a simple hello..... it's not too difficult and you wouldn't be putting yourself out there. One thing I know about women is that they tend to smile a lot even when they are uncomfortable or repulsed by an individual so I think an offer of hello might clue them that they need to open their mouth. Remember, guys are kind of dumb. I always stick to the the fact that we do not know unless you tell us. To infer is to error.

kristynn

Oh well, I'd feel stupid to say 'hello' to someone I don't know. Maybe because I can't anticipate their answer. If I would be sure they'll be really nice and answer, I wouldn't mind. In the case of a stranger, I don't know what to expect. :s

But you guys should take initiative and approach a girl and not wait to be approached by her!

Nosnosna

... that's EXACTLY the reason we don't always approach girls.

If you have trouble doing that, you can't reasonably expect us to not have trouble with it. There's nothing magical about being male that lets us know that stuff, no matter how much we pretend to know everything.

kristynn

Well, there are actually guys who don't mind and go ahead and say "hello"....

However, I've seen even very confident guys unable to do so.