Pretty, not beautiful

Rockstar714 · Jul 10, 2008, 09:47 AM

I don't think you're expecting too much, you're right, us girls do want to be called beautiful, we deserve it, whether we look like we got in a fight with a chainsaw or whether we look like a model. The cliche line "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is absolutely true. Someone could be atrocious on the outside but be the best person ever and they're still beautiful and that's what makes them beautiful.

Him correcting you by saying "only pretty" well, that's just a jack- move on his part. I'd talk to him about it, and tell him how you feel. It can't hurt, the worst that can happen is you guys decide to part ways because some true feelings come out. Don't let him avoid the subject.

herown · Jul 10, 2008, 10:22 AM

I really appreciate your thoughts Rockstar, and I'll consider what you suggested. I've been waiting to hear him say that for as long as I can remember. He told me once he hasn't seen me beautiful yet, and added 'probably when you're all dressed up.' We went to a formal gathering a few months back, and I was so desperate to hear it that I went to great lengths to look my best, and I was still 'pretty'. How painfully honest! I'm getting the hang of it though. I just hope he holds back from being painfully honest even for a second, and give my yearning ego a boost. LOL! Thanks a lot again!

plonak · Jul 10, 2008, 10:26 AM

Hey girl,

Yes I agree with being honest and open with him.. That's kind of strange that he has to keep throwing it in your face even when you tried really hard to be beautiful. Maybe he likes the control or power? If so, you deserve to be treated better. Good luck and keep us posted!

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Jul 10, 2008, 10:36 AM

Hunny, you are beautiful! !
Don't let some guy tell you other wise.
If you are afraid that your boyfriend will leave you for someone more 'beautiful' then your insecurities have gotten the best of you. Build some confidence! When you wake up every morning, say to yourself 'I'm beautiful!' When walking down the street, smile at every one and your confidence will shine. Men like confidence.
Quit frankly I don't consider any woman in this world being more beautiful than the other.

herown · Jul 10, 2008, 10:37 AM

Thanks Plonak! I'd like to think it just never occurred to him that the term 'beautiful' is not only for the outside appearance. Otherwise, I'm doomed (you know what I mean). I really just hope I'm not overreacting. He's a really loving boyfriend and a very good person. He's just blind to my silent wishes sometimes.

herown · Jul 10, 2008, 10:41 AM

To you too beautifulbrunette, thank you. And yes, I sure will say that to myself when I wake up tomorrow.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Jul 10, 2008, 10:43 AM

I hope you do say it

Rockstar714 · Jul 10, 2008, 10:47 AM

He's obviously shallow if beauty is only on the outside to him. He doesn't do much for your ego. Regardless of how loving and great he is, bottom line is that he doesn't make you feel good about yourself, and you don't need that. You are a beautiful person and this is obviously bothering you because you know you are. You don't need some guy reassuring you.

Allheart · Jul 10, 2008, 10:52 AM

[quote=herown]I have been in a relationship with someone for almost a year now. Everything has been great, apart from this one thing which troubles me a little. He tells me how nice I am, how good I look with what I

Pretty, not beautiful

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