Alright, so I met a woman online. We HAVE NOT gone on a date yet. We've texted and called and talked online for about 2 weeks now. I have been out of the dating game for a bit and I'm wondering something though. At times, she'll text me, I'll text back and I won't hear a reply for a few hours. Or we will be talking online and again, the replies are few and far between. More than once, she has called me only to have her phone die or I have called her after she has asked and it's gone straight to voicemail. I don't understand if this is a game, playing hard to get or what... it's odd, because I have been blown off before, no problem, and she's admitted to me that usually when she is not interested in someone, she'll stop talking to them, but SHE initiates the conversations, the texts and whatever. If I don't say anything to her for a bit, she usually texts me. No clue what is going on. She's a nice person and very beautiful, but what would this say if this were to turn into something?

And before anyone says anything, I know enough about her to know that she is NOT in a relationship or anything like that.

Gemini54

What do I say? - trust your intuition.

If she can't see how her behavior is affecting you and can only ask 'are you mad at me' then she seemingly, has a limited capacity for self analysis - that's a red flag.

If she's playing games and blowing hot and cold, it's not worth your investment.

asking

Possibilities:
She's busy and feels like keeping up with your messages is taking too much time, though she may not want to say that to you. Do you communicate to her a lot?

She's a bit bored with the relationship, maybe you've been spending more time together than she wants. So she just doesn't get around to getting back to you.

Or your messages are long and complicated and so she puts off answering and then feels guilty and doesn't get back to it.

(You wonder where I'm getting these ideas!!)

If she's USED to you always answering back and you don't, then she'll think something's wrong. But she may not realize that you don't like it when she doesn't answer back.

Talk to her.

-wise interwebs

coyne740

I talked to her last night about this. She assured me nothing was wrong, but at the root of it, I told her I was feeling insecure and clingy (which I'm not that person, but insecurity does odd things to us sometimes). I apologized to her for that and for some things that were said this past week (I said something that objectified her, something that made her just feel like I was in the relationship for sex, it came out wrong) and she was sort of holding a grudge about it. I apologized for that again and told her what it really meant and what she meant to me. Things seem ok now.

asking

Good!

You don't want to be patching things up every day, but communicating when things are starting to feel wrong really helps.

I hope things stay on an even keel for a while. Try not to take her occasional silences too personally.