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I have a probleme getting date you know im a lil on the chubby side but i think of myself as curvy becuz im nopt that big a a lil shy and im a nice girl im 18 never had a date and i wuld really like one i dont know what i am doing wrong guys just think of me as a friend? so i dunno what to do HELPPP
what type of guy are you looking for? Maby you have your sights set too high, or too low. Even if you are shy, you should still be able to get a date, but remember, most guys are only out for one thing, and one thing only. So if you get a date with a guy, let them know up front what your boundries are and stick to them.
Go to places that you will meet guys your age of a year or so older. Just for a suggestion go to the library, join a reading group, go to Church, get involved in one of the classes there. Just make yourself available. You got to go where the guys are. Bars and clubs are not the best places for you to go alone ....go in a group.
Life isn't fair. Chubby/curvy individuals usually have to make more effort than slender individuals to attract the opposite sex. If you don't flirt, say hello, or smile at people because you are shy, and just sit wherever waiting to be approached - well that isn't likely to happen.
The good news is you know what you're doing isn't working, so all you have to do is change what you are doing. I know, you want people to like you for you as you are, but that can't happen if you don't create an opportunity for them to get to know you.
I'd suggest the following things if you aren't already doing them:
1) Exercise - not so much for weight loss, but because it's good for eliminating stress and putting yourself in a good frame of mind. People are attracted to happy people.
2) Try to smile at people and make eye contact.
3) Talk to people and laugh/joke. Work on flirting.
4) Make your goal getting to know guys instead of getting a date. Dates will be a side effect.
I'm going to say-don't worry about it! You need to worry about you first. If you think you're unhappy b/c you don't have a guy, you won't be happy with a guy. You need to find what makes you happy, something you can do on your own. Get out and get involved in something you like to do without the forethought of just trying to meet a guy.
People are attracted to people that are confident, adjusted and have a life. so get out there and just be you-and you'll be reeling them in in no time!
there have been times in my life when i couldnt get a date with a person id like for the life of me, and then other times when there were two or three people who wanted to date. point is, sometimes there is absolutely no reason.
as for being "curvy", well, to each their own. my cousin, who is quite fit, has always been attracted to curvy women. hed walk right past a skinny girl in a heartbeat to get to the one with some shape.
so try to be a little patient. i know its frustrating. but sometimes its just the right people arent around you. it really can be that simple.
outside of that, be upbeat, have fun, get to know people. itll happen. i promise. you just need to be positive and enjoy yourself.
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