My question is this: Men
1. Please tell whether you are single or married and your age
2. What is the number of sexual partners you start to think a woman is "slutty" ?
In otherwords what number are you okay with, and what number do you start to think oh my... she's been around I wouldn't /date/marry her?
3. Also... is having sex different and the number not count? You'll have sex with the girl no matter her number but decide not to date her if it is too high for your standards?
Thanks Men you're all very lovely... lol :p

If I'm talking to a woman around my age (26), then I wouldn't be surprised if the number was anywhere between 0 to 5. Any more than that and I begin to wonder. Not to say I will not date them or sleep with them, but I won't go in there thinking any more than sex for the time being. Some men don't care, but others do.

25, single.

Slutty isn't a number of partners, it's a pattern of behavior and attitude. Being a slut is having sex to get something... you can be a slut with a single partner if you're doing it purely to get attention, or to hold onto him, or anything like that. Conversely, you can have sex with a different person every week and not be a slut if you're simply doing it for yourself.

The number is unimportant. The only number I have any qualms about is 0 for a number of personal reasons.

Are you saying that you don't want to meet a virgin? Can I ask why? Are men who are no longer virgins totally put off by unexperienced lady virigins?

Do men ask you how many partners you've had?

1) Married. 30 years old.
2) More then one. Lol
3) I married, being a virgin and my wife being a virgin.
4) There is not cut and dry answers here. It all depends on each persons experience. It is obvious my answers are so different then what you might expect because myself and my partner were our each others first.

Your welcome, I am glad you think I am lovely. (; lol

Yes that is why I want to know why they ask!!

I'm simply not at a point in my life where I have the time or energy to deal with the type of emotional issues that come up with virgins. I'm not looking to settle down, or even get involved in anything beyond the middle term. It's simply not cool to get involved with a virgin for a short term relationship.

1. I am 51, divorcing for the 2nd time, looking forward to sucker (oops) wife number 3. She's got to be out there somewhere. Got a few candidates but none are falling for my 30 year plus chat up lines! Darn women too fussy:D

2. Doesn't matter to me. If she fits what I want then I don't care if it's 5 or 55. (Regardless of age, if you're a bloke with double figures you are a stud, if you're a women you're a tramp. Tad unfair but that's the way the world both male and female looks at it.)

3. Every girl is different. However having said that there are only so many places to put it, and only so many positions. Although I don't rule out many, the chandelier is a no no nowadays.

Such a serious question deserves a serious reply so... I look for a girl that is going to keep me on my toes (not sexually) and enjoys what I enjoy. Sport, beer, dining, typical bloke things. I also enjoy history (reading/watching), gardening, and of course my cats. If she doesn't like competition from my cats then sorry she doesn't even get to the bedroom.

I used to think the same way as many that numbers dictated what you were like as a person. NO! If numbers are more important than a fun and satisfying relationship then you have already started down that long and winding road with few exits.

Just my humble opinions as always.

I completely agree with Nosnosna. It's really not the raw number, it's the entire attitude and demeanour assosiated with a person's sexuality that makes a difference.

A guy in love with a girl will probably turn a blind eye to how many partner's they've had before. A guy looking to get laid also probably does not care about how many partner's the girl has had before his "moment".

You want to know why they ask?
I think younger guys are more opt to ask... for their own various reasons (insecurity, judgmental, lack of experience, etc). Quite frankly, I wouldn't answer any who'd ask.

I have asked some guys how many partners they've had (2 long term boyfriends I've had) and they ask me too. Now one of them wanted to know and our relationship was over at this point, and since then the number went up. So I was wondering what hed think if I told him a higher number, that it went up. What is "bad" what is "ok" etc. But I think that if you are not dating the guy you have the right to say " none of your business my number". But what do you say if you get back together? I think the truth! No matter what, or you could say I wount give specifics but you weren't the last. As long as you are clean and have moved on from the past it shouldn't matter. Also I agree with peoples opinions that attitude matters more than a number. And time. If you are 35 and it was 25 people when you were 20 and since then its been oh 1 or 2 or 3 more than that's OK... considering you are still single lol. Thanks for the comments

I am 37 and single.

I haven't been in the sexual realm yet, so I don't know if I could judge.

I believe a little experience would go in my favor when I meet my future woman:)

Relationship I know I'm young at 17
At my age 2 but I'm having problems with my currant gf(read and possiply reply to my question thing)
Again similar with my question/post but it can depend on weather you know how many bfs/partners she's had before you guys start dating,commonly you won't know till she feels ready to tell you but hell I'm young so maybe I'm bound to be heartbroken for a little while yet

Thanks for referring me to "very lovely" Im sure its extremely exaggerated in my case. I thank you regardless. Keep in mind my shared experience is basically just that, not right or wrong its just one of my life experiences I feel compelled to type. Im 38, with a favorable chance of becoming slightly heavy enough to receive group rates on car insurance. Single and mostly sexually active, alone. No children or desire to successfully create any. However practicing is an art form and I have hopes in achieving the 64 count box with the sharpener. I wasn't informed much about sex, women or proper methods to even participate in such nudie games of pleasure. I also secretly don't believe in marriage to be a personal success or solution to masturbation issues that could arise. I can't seem to swallow the perception that a legal paper can create or obtain a lasting relationship we both enjoy. I know why I successfully ruin all romantic relationships. I speak what I think and feel and can't seem to pick the right time to just shut up or say yes that skirt looks great. I guess its just not me to pretend to be what I am not. Basically why I thanked you for calling me lovely. Does romance or inner feelings have a specific sexual encounter limit applied? I don't think so, if it does I didn't get that memo. Im not really set on specific standards of any one type of woman. If a connection is made, I know your going to get old fat an ugly anyway so does it really matter to begin with? Does having a stipulation much at all, on anyone become overwhelming excitement for communication requirements needed for an extended enjoyable commitment. Bah A persons past in the subject of more times than me doesn't get me jealous or concerned unless the required health cert. was not adding unwanted health concerns to little Willy. Reflecting back a little, where are these women when my empty pole needed a flag for the breeze I was feeling? Who knows, I have accepted the fact I have no burning desire to change my personality to gain status of marriage. That word is basically a legal matter with no obvious reflection in ability or amount of love someone shares. I also had the thought of the man may use that "sla Tea" excuse to continue his male farming duties and spread his seeds in other rich and fertile fields. So I don't see reason to exclude anyone for earning more mile high flyer miles or desperate red wings despite the elementary level experience I have acquired. So if someone points a finger at me they have three more pointed back at him. Have fun, and call me later. Lol jk

Ain't nobody's business but your own. I agree with nosnosna, sluttiness is a matter of self-respect, not numbers. I was a virgin when I married at 23, spent the decade of my 30's as a bachelor having sex with as many women as would have me. I've never asked a woman how many partners she's had. Very bad manners, in my book. Some of the women I dated were probably sluts, but I don't judge them for it, so was I at the time. I'm 60 now, been married and monogamous for 21 years, celibate for the last three. Sex is important, but not as important as it seems when you're young.

Am a lady.

ALTHOUGH THIS QUESTION WAS FOR MEN BUT I WOULD LIKE TO PARTICIPATE AS WELL.because as far sex and relations are concerned we all do it and both the partners are mutual players. So why not answer it mutually... AND YES I WUOLD FELL GOOD TO HAVE THE HONOURS TO ANSWER FIRST IN WOMEN.


Number of partners don't matter. It is simply affection between two souls that reallt matters regarding getting married to a girl.if you think the girl you are dating might have been with many guys, simply you don't know what and why has she been with them. MAY BE SHE WAS FINDING THE RIGHT PARTNER TO ULTIMATELY GET MARRIED TO ONEDAY.
And if a girl is slutty you might observe her in few days and can quit her as slutty girls don't become good wives and mothers.


As far as virginity is concerned,today is not an issue or guarantee of someone's purity,its always ones attitude from which you can judge whether the girl is good enough to get married to or not.and yes you got to be careful and love the girl you are dating at the same time.look for her loyalities and there are millions ways you can get a clue she will remain with you for longtime or get married to you or not.


TELL ME IF IT WORKED OR NOT.


LOVE AND BELOVED, It's the MOST BEAUTIFUL BLESSING OF GOD TO MAN.



Best of luck friend. :)

1. 27/M/Engaged
2-3. The actual number doesn't matter, so much as the context of how they came about.

For instance, my fiancée is 26, and has had well over 30 partners, yet she is as far from my definition of "slutty" as you can get. Why? She wasn't using sex to cover up any emotional or self esteem issues, nor has she ever cheated when in a committed relationship. The answer for the high number? When she was single, she wanted sex. No expectations, no false pretenses, just sex.

I would rather deal with someone like that who is upfront and honest about their sexuality, than someone who has been married 3 times, but has 5 sexual partners due to cheating in each marriage.

Old thread. OP hasn't come back either.

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