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so i'm seeing a married man, we've been "together" for about a year and a half. He's told me he loves me, and i really believe i love him too. his wife already knows about us, but doesn't have proof. he's not looking to leave his wife because of the divorce and starting all over with a house and giving alimony. he's asked me on several occassions if it's getting to hard for me, to which i don't respond. he always says that he doesn't want to hurt me, but it hurts everytime when he says he loves me. i need advice.
What's your instinct saying? I've had that said to me quite a few times. So far, Everytime the guy said he didn't want to hurt me was becuase he was going to and that was the warning. It's not a good situation to be in at all.
well... ask yourself if you can live with the way it is.
can you keep going in the relationship knowing that he is with her and doesnt do anything about wanting to be with you?
if he is going to stay with his wife, are you going to stay with him?
Can you say "alienation of affection"? That is what his wife can say and it would not take much to proof it. Why do women fall for men they cannot have? It is some martyr complex? Or being a glutton for punishment? Do you think you do not deserve an unattached male who can give you his FULL attention in all areas?
Wake up, wake up, to the world outside this man.
And ask yourself this - if he really did leave his wife and you and he got together, would you be forever looking over your shoulder for the other woman also? I am a firm believer that once a man cheats, he will do it again (same for women, I have no sexist bias there).
You are in a very unhealthy relationship and you must know it and you must feel it. Walk away from this manipulative man. He is using you and using his wife. There is name for that but it is unprintable.
He may say (and may even believe) that he loves both you and his wife, but if he does, he's lying to himself and to both of you. He's a selfish user. Cut him loose and find someone who will give you his full attention and devotion. Anything less is counterfeit love.
hmmmm...seems to be alot of this going around right now?
I say this is not smart of you.
To me this is like waking up everyday, sticking your hand in a waffle iron, burning yourself, telling yourself it doesn't really hurt, and then doint it agian the next day.
And its true because you are teh one getting burned in this situaltion, ( well the guys wife is too). You are burning yourself and say it feels good and for whatever reason aer beleiveing it....you need to get up some nerve girl and realize you deserve so much better than this.
Your his booty call.
He doesn't love you. he'll never leave his wife for you.
your actions make me sick!
Get out of this married man's life.
what about his poor wife and kids.
Actually you and him probably deserve one another. and when he is with you he can do the same thing again to you and you can feel the pain of having your life destroyed by a cheating partner.
and no, i havent had this happen to me, but i can only imagine the pain it would cause to rip a family apart.
Please cut all contact with this man!
Find someone who isnt married and get out before you destroy the lives of alot of innocent people!
please go and read Jessie's post in this thread. You will get an idea on what it is like to be on the other side.
im sorry if i sounded harsh but it is impossible for me to sympathise with you.
you may be hurting but others will hurt a lot more than you if this continues.
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