im 25 and Ive been dating this guy for 7 months and everything was going well, then one day he said he was going to come to my house and hangout with me, so i said matter fact im going to come to your house (since for the past month we always chilled by my house), he tells me that i can not come to his house so i continue to ask him why because in my mind im thinking another girl...he says im being annoying and he doesnt feel like talking about now but i continue to ask why, he says i dont want to talk about it now and thats what the f--k i said and hung up the phone. i was so upset so i sent him a text message this is exactly what i said: your not better than me so stop acting like it. he said say no more and u dont have to deal with me i got even more upset that he would say that cause everytime i had a problem with something he did he always said this also he know how i feel about him and that i wanted to b with him so i texted him back f--k you. realizing that i may have over reacted i tried calling him and text him to get him to speak to me. so i said to myself i will give him space and he will call.
After a week and a half he never called so i text him he called me back but i missed his call and i called him back, he never called me back so a week later i called him again we talked about it and i apologized over quite a few times and told him i didnt mean to say those things, this happened in feb2009, so we start speaking on the phone on the regular but not on the weekends, so i would ask him to lets go out to dinner or the movies and he would tell me idk or i would ask when im going to see him again cause i missed him like crazy and i love him, he again would say idk, mind you before all this we hanged out all the time we was always together. so its like mid march i feel like he should of gotten over this by now so we could move on to the way things used to be. so i just ask him honestly if things could go back to the way things were and he told me that he dont think so cause he holds grudges and dont forgive easily . i miss him so much and i get these feelings in my heart every time i think about him...he just wont let go idk what to do...need advice

kp2171

wow and wow.

this guy mindf&*ks you and then you feel bad about it.

dont get me wrong. ive been where you are, with a girl who played me long and hard.

but really... you need to make him your past. now.

he is dangerous for you.

if another man, of any decent quality, was available and interested, youd tell this arsehole to kiss it.

but, because there isnt another decent guy around at the moment, you are torturing yourself for the FIdiot that is playing mind games.

again... ive been where you are. too many times.

you need to make him your past.

if he isnt willing to chase you, to work for you, to catch you and keep you... he isnt into you.

and thats the truth... he isnt into you enough to do the work you need and deserve.

that isnt any fault of yours. you dont own that. it isnt any kind of breakdown on your side.

he just isnt right for you, and he isnt going to try to be right for you.

walk away. please.

run away.

now.