OK.. when I love someone, I know that I love them for them. I'd say that im a nice guy, with good moral values, etc, etc.
However recently I have noticed that I react differently to girls with money (with really rich parents). Like...its hard to explain it but I just want to love those type of girls (even if they have a bad personality or look ugly).. and the only thing that I think is the thing that makes we want to like them is their money.
Is there a way to make me stop having these feelings????
Yeah stop going after their money. Make your own and pick the woman that you want to be with based on the person..not material possessions. You get invoved with someone soley for money and not personality, what does that say about you as a person?
Hi,
Marriages are built on many things as a foundation. For some, it's love for each other, whether through "sickness or health", etc.
For others, it's based on other things, such as money, financial well-being. A much younger woman might marry a wealthy, much older man, to be financially well off, taking care of the older man; an arrangement in marriage that happens sometimes. Or, could be the other way around with a much older woman, marrying a much younger man, with money involved.
There is nothing wrong with arrangements such as this, if both partners know exactly why they are getting married.
You have to decide what you really want out of life. I've been married now for 29 yrs, and it wasn't for money. We are in love, and want to be with each other. Your decision may be based on something else; it's your choice. I do wish you the best.
I do disagree with the previous answer about "don't plan to achieve your own independence" (I changed the spelling of "independance") because many marry into money, use some of it for attending Universities or Colleges, or better themselves, so they can achieve their own personal goals. I have known a few married people like that, and it worked out fine for both of them. They are still married after many, many years. In one case, he is lawyer, and she became a Doctor, after they married.
Material things are not the things that will give u eternal happiness. Money is not true love. And as needkarma said its all superficial.
Material things i.e money come and go.
Grow up and be more independent not a puppy for money!
sorry, but i have to relate to the thread title: loving someone, or loving the money?
I don't agree here with Fred, because i don't think the example he gave applies here. I have the feeling that you're a young guy and you haven't made up your mind yet about the nature of the relationship you'd like to have. although there are cases where people get involved and /or get married because one of them is better off and the other more needy, these situations might work out well only when both parties are honest about it and know what's it all about. that's not the impression i got in this case. if one gets into such a relationship without putting all the cards on the table, at least one of them will end up miserably - they're heading for a life based on deception,i can't see any happy-end here.
Millie
HI,
Since you didn't mention your age in your question, I gave a general answer to marrying into money.
However, if you want to stop yourself from dating others who have rich parents, then just stop. It is normal to want money; that's why most people work for a living. There isn't anything wrong with hoping that someday, one might be in the same lifestyle as the "rich and famous". Your thoughts are normal about money, but if you think your thoughts are overtaking you, then just stop with asking those girls out.
One of the answers here raises an ethical question in my mind. it seems to me that marrying someone for their money violates the sanctity of marriage as described by Christianity (see:http://www.epc.org/documents/SanctityofMarriage.pdf). Clearly such a union would violate Christian tenents.
In addition, I don't see marriage as an "arrangement" but as a covenant between two people.
Therefore, it seems to me that marriage for money, especially if only one party was aware of it, would be unethical.
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