In love with someone who doesnt love me anymore.

Red3 · #1 Apr 23, 2007, 04:50 PM

I started dating my ex in Apirl of last year. We got pregant within the first three months, and my hormones and emotions starting going crazy. I was treating him like crap, saying things like I didn't want to be with him, I would ruin the evening by thinking he didn't want me there, even though that wasn't the case at all. Time went by and in Oct he told me he didn't love me anymore, due to the way I was treating him. That hurt so bad...So now its Apirl of 07 we are still not together, but we do have a precious little boy. I am still very in love with him, but yet he doesn't love me I am trying to work things out, but no matter what I do he just doesn't seem to want any part of it. Even though he says he wants to be a family if everything is perfect between us. I don't know how to be perfect without him helping out. Is there anything that I can do to make him realize he is the piece of the puzzle me and my boys are missing to be the family God intended us to be????
Please answer this if you have anything that could help......thank you!!!

keenabena · Aug 3, 2007, 06:23 AM

Men are some what like women and they have feelings too. They may not wine or cry like we do but when they hurt they hurt hard. Because you were the reason he is acting like this. Let him know that you love him and try not to be so pushy step back give him space and show him you have changed. Do nice things just because, not for any reason so that he dosen;t get the idea your just diong them to be with him. For your son sake focus more on him and show him actions speak louder than words. Remember he loves you because you have apart of him(your son) and if he truly loves you it will take time.

GlindaofOz · Aug 3, 2007, 06:35 AM

The fact is that you deeply hurt this man. It sounds like you were verbally abusive to him and he got fed up. You may have to accept the fact that all you will share is a friendship and your wonderful baby boy. He has moved on and has shown you that he has no intentions of being back in your life in a romantic way meanwhile you are waiting and trying to convince someone to do something that they do not want to do. I think you need to move on and shift your focus off this man.

bluerose · Aug 3, 2007, 07:21 AM

I agree with keenabena. Sit down with him for a chat. Explain about hormones and what it's like to be pregnant. Let him know you are not making excuses, you are simply trying to apologies. You could discuss getting back together for a trial period. He sounds like a decent guy. Just let him know you are sorry.

Canada_Sweety · Aug 3, 2007, 07:27 AM

Meet him face to face and explain what was going on when you were pregnant. Explain your concern for your child and how he deserves to have a family. Of course, you did hurt his feelings pretty bad but that is why you must have patience. Just call him up and make a meeting with him and talk everything through. And if he still doesn't want to be with you, then getting it off your chest will at least make you feel better.

devilzadvocate · Sep 13, 2007, 08:04 PM

The Only Way For Him To Realize ..it's On Its Own...don't Pressure Him Or Force Him...just Let Time Pass By...maybe You Will Realize Too That He Isn't The One...love Should Be Reciprocated...if Someone You Love Hurts You Cry A River..built A Bridge..and Get Over It!!

jeeves · Nov 7, 2007, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Red3

I started dating my ex in Apirl of last year. We got pregant within the first three months, and my hormones and emotions starting going crazy. I was treating him like crap, saying things like I didn't want to be with him, I would ruin the evening by thinking he didn't want me there, even though that wasn't the case at all. Time went by and in Oct he told me he didn't love me anymore, due to the way I was treating him. That hurt so bad...So now its Apirl of 07 we are still not together, but we do have a precious little boy. I am still very in love with him, but yet he doesn't love me I am trying to work things out, but no matter what I do he just doesn't seem to want any part of it. Even though he says he wants to be a family if everything is perfect between us. I don't know how to be perfect without him helping out. Is there anything that I can do to make him realize he is the piece of the puzzle me and my boys are missing to be the family God intended us to be????
Please answer this if you have anything that could help......thank you!!!

Relationships work themselves out one way or another. If it's meant to be he will be back. The worst thing you can do is force someone to be with you when they don't want to be. The main thing is that you both be there for your child and that he is loved unconditionally.

(p.s. it might seem like you are sooo in love with him but truth be told... we always tend to really want what we can't have) Good Luck



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