Well, I'm new to this website and find myself here cause I'm in desperate search for advice. I'm currently 17 and was in a relationship of a year and five months. I was with a girl who had a crush on me back when I was in 8th grade while she was in the 7th. However, I rejected her due to the fact that I wasn't ready for a relationship. Then, as time went on and we both entered high school I began to regret passing her up and decided to apologize to her for what had happened. This quickly revived her old feelings and about a month later we were together. Things were going great! We started going out, I would go over to her house and then things got even more serious. After about our 10th month anniversary she started asking me to sleep over and her mother had no problem with it due to the fact that she thought I was accepted by her family with open arms. Eventually, we became each other's firsts. However, things weren't that great on my part. My mom didn't really approve of me having a girlfriend and she wasn't really allowed over at my house though I had had her over when my mother was there. This pretty much continued throughout the relationship and, obviously, complicated things. Recently we've been fighting due to the fact that according to her, I never bought her little things, which is partly true, though she did the same but yet expected me to buy her things. In addition, I'm a senior in high school and my father is a doctor right across the border and I want to pursue our shared dream(me & my father) in becoming a doctor. The reason I would rather study medicine in Mexico is due to the fact that it takes only 5 years as apposed to perhaps 9 if I were to stay in the U.S. I told her that I would come visit her weekends and that in my break periods I would come stay with her but she says that that would not be enough for us to survive 5 years. She says that she's the kind of person that needs attention not just from anyone but that she wouldn't be able to receive it from me when I'm a couple hundred miles away. I told her that things would be much easier for us if I were to become a doctor because I would be able to support us without a problem. However, she tells me that she doesn't feel bad for breaking it off because it's my choice to leave to Mexico to study medicine when I could simply stay here and pursue the same career. I've tried talking to her and begged her to stay with me but she continues to reject me. I cant believe this is coming from the same girl that would swear to me that she would marry me should I have proposed to her or that she'd get depressed because I told her that a baby at our age was a bad idea. She tells me that she does see me in her future but not at the moment, that she needs time to miss me. What should I do? Should I risk giving her time and completely getting over me or should I keep trying? Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you.

limey34

Dude, you are 17 years old, this stuff should not even matter! You want to be a doctor?? Then go be a doctor. Girls are controlled by their emotions so she will say anything to get you to stay,but all you can do is follow YOUR dream. If your relationship really means something to you both, then you will make it work.The fact that she would try to interfere with this decision shows me that she thinks primarily about herself, she should be encouraging you, not trying to bog you down with unwanted babies and emotional crap.

peter21

Yeah, I guess you're right. It's just hard when it's your first love. The one that introduced you to it all. Thank you!