Can anyone help me? i dont know why excatly, but jealousy and insecurity has ruined everyone of my relationships so far. i dont believe i am unattractive except for my weird nose. im 18. I love my boyfriend who i am currently with, but he keeps trying to leave me be he says im a lunatic when it comes to insecurity. here is my problem, .. there are naked ( or close to it) girls everywhere! on tv, in every movie, on the computer, in magazines, in stores. whats with america and naked women? i know it sells but we are more than just sex objects! how about our brains being sexy for once. we cant do anything together because what if theres a pretty girl in the movie, or in that store? it kills me, i used to cut because of how upset it makes me. i believe that hes my boyfriend, and should see no one elses body but mine. is that selfish? i dont even like him getting his hair cut by this girl that he used to go to becuase he has admitted that she is hot. ugh . i hate watching tv, they are all pretty girls with d cups, and theyre tan, and skinny. i hate it. my boyfriend doesnt really want to be with me because if i dont see him for a few hours, the first thing i ask him is, " what have you seen? were you watching tv? was there pretty girls in the magazine? were you looking at girls on the computer when you hung out with your friends? i need help, i dont want these things to ruin my life anymore. what am i going to do?

N0help4u

You need to realize that you are the one he wants and others don't mean anything to your guy unless he GIVES you reason for you to think otherwise. Think about if there were some really great looking guy that walked past you and you looked....does that mean you want to do anything with him? Or you just found him attractive. What I do about many different types of situations with a guy is stay back and don't say anything and WATCH how they react to a situation. If they give you no reason to be upset you are only accomplishing pushing them away.
Like if you two are walking past a girl that you could get jealous over don't say anything just watch and see if how he reacts to her. Don't be obvious or obnoxious. Just notice rather than reacting. It doesn't make sense to accuse a guy of doing something they have no intentions of doing.
Also as guys have said to me a pic of a girl in a magazine or a girl in the movies doesn't really do anything for some guys because they realize that if they can't be with them whats the use they would rather be with someone they can actually have.

You need to learn trust first and accuse after you are given REAL reason to believe otherwise. Its not like he is going to turn around and follow the girl walking the other way home....and if he does you are better off if he is that unreliable.

N0help4u

Another thing I forgot to mention....
if you do the way I say you are giving them enough rope to hang their self if they are a cheater; but if you are constantly accusing they just get sneakier so you are working against your self.