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I like my guy friend, does he like me? Or should I move on?

Asked Aug 1, 2011, 03:17 PM — 4 Answers
I am really good friends with this one guy, but I have had a crush on him since forever. I am 99% sure he doesn't know that I like him though. Recently, he started acting *slightly* different around me. Just small things, like adding kind of flirty lines when we talk or are texting, he texts me more, we talk more about things like dating. Also, he says things like "we should go to the movies together." Also, sometimes I turn around an he is just kind of looking at me, and then I say "what?" and he kind of goes "uh, I don't know" a little bit embarrassed. There are lots of other little things he says or does that just make me think "maybe?" like when he said "I miss you" when I was on vacation. But I am biased because I like him, and although my friends say things like "oh I think he likes you" or "he keeps staring at you" he said one thing that made me think even if he did like me, nothing could happen. Once I was talking to him about things like dating (I've never dated anyone, he has) and he said he would never date a girl he was friends with because it causes "too much turmoil." He said this because his last girlfriend was his friend before, and his relationship didn't go anywhere, plus her best friend got mad at her because she asked him out and he said no, then he asked her out. So I thought, even if he likes me, he wouldn't date me. So should I *try* and move on (I have tried before, so not working, if so, any tips?)? Or wait? Or any other suggestions?

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Aug 1, 2011, 04:46 PM


If he likes you things will progress. You have already noticed changes in how he interacts with you. Or what stops you for asking him out to a movie or something?
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Aug 1, 2011, 05:16 PM
Go to the movie with him.

Sometimes the best way to get a guy to ask you out is to just be his friend. He may have said that he'll never date another friend again, but people that are friends first really do have better relationships.

Just hang out with him, have fun, be his friend, flirt back. It sounds like he really is interested. Maybe he's just waiting to see if you are.
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Aug 2, 2011, 12:12 PM


Yes dating a friend can make things awkward later, but so what? Next time he says "we should go to a movie", just agree, and enjoy it. Things will develop in there own way.

Maybe bring up his offer for a movie, and follow through, instead of being embarrassed. Then you will know, awkward or not, and you won't have to wonder.

When you are afraid to take a chance, for sure you have no chance at all, and that's sad isn't it?
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Aug 2, 2011, 01:16 PM
Sounds like he is just a little confused.

He probably does like you, but remembers the pain he felt last time this friend/dating situation came up. Now he's perplexed about his policy ... Break the policy and possibly wind up hurt again, or enforce the policy and always wonder "what if".

I agree with the others though... Start slow... Go to that movie as a first step.
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