Ok so I know its stupid and I've seen posts like this but backwards... I mostly just need to vent and get the thoughts from people who don't know me and my coworker. So here's my story...

I've been working with this guy for a year and a half. He's 10 years older than me and he's been dating this girl for 8 years (on and off). We get along pretty well and vent to each other about work and life. Everything was always friendly although I was attracted to him I never thought much of it. One day another coworker told me to be careful because she thought I was flirting too much and that there was an obvious attraction on both sides. I told my male coworker about the gossip going around about us and he laughed and said "right like I'm such a catch" We left it at that. A few weeks later a bunch of us from work went out and had a little too much to drink. My coworker's girlfriend was out of town and he was worried about getting a dui so I told him I'd pick him up. By the time we left we were holding hands and a little touchier than usual. I mean nothing really happened... but it wasn't exactly normal.

I know he talks about breaking up with his girlfriend but he's talked about that forever. And I know that she wants to move and he doesn't. We've never really talked about that night. But I'm sure that he's just unhappy with where he is right now... but I really do like him. How stupid am I?

You need to distance yourself from him. Obviously there is a mutual attraction and you are tempting yourselves when you hang out.

Let him figure out his relationship with his girlfriend. If he decides - on his own without temptation from you - that their relationship is over, then it will be OK to see where things go.

In the meantime, do not degrade yourself by being "the other woman". That can only end badly.

Alcohol makes you even fuzzier inside when we already have those natural feelings for other humans.

REALITY CHECK- You work with him, and are friends, so keep it that way.

Why screw up at your job, when you know he is still committed, and anything foolish you do you will have to go to work, and see it up front, and in your face, every day.

Sober up, and keep things on the respect yourself level.