I'm gay and I've fallen in love with Straight.

How old are you?

Age is important...we need to know it.

Tick... Tick... Tick...

Well even without age this is easy, you don't do anything, he is not gay, he is not interested in dating you, and you do't love him, you have desires, or feelings, but love takes both to desire.

So you are going to ruin a friendship and a lot more in the future, if you can't learn that friends are friends, and people you date while can be friends, are not every person you are friends with.

I would "love" to have dated Janet Jackson, but guess what it is not gong to happen. So you decide if you want to ruin a friendship or if you want to learn to control your hormones

16 .

YES. THANKS. Sometimes i wish i don't have hormones

Moved FROM Adult Sexuality.

We can still give this young man advice on dating--just not in that forum.

You fell in lust with them HUGE difference from falling in love.

Consider they are straight and thus likely won't feel the same way, and worse...might get offended. They odds of them simply responding "...Oh yes nizhulei, I don't know what I saw in all those girls anyway..." are going to be pretty slim. Damn remote in fact.

You said they are straight....you don't even suspect they might swing both ways much less be gay.

Best to walk away. As you would with anyone partnered up already.

I have experience in these matters. You see, I am only attracted to a straight man. I feel no pressure and know he isn't just trying to get to my junk. I've had both type of relationships with them. Type A is when he is OK with your sexuality and doesn't care what people on the "outside" think of him for it. This is identical to two straight buddies, there is no sex. I am always perfectly happy with that and consider myself lucky to have such a good friend. There is type B and in this sort the straight guy makes a move. My reaction depends on if I am physically attracted to him or not, if he has a girlfriend or not. Depending on the guy and situation I may say OK or I may say no thank you. I can satisfy his immediate need but that has always been just it, he has a need and I satisfy it until I become tired of the game and I initiate the drift apart. One guy was very loving towards me but he maintained a girlfriend and sensing that I would eventually get hurt I decided to break it off. He was very hurt by it. I didn't want to screw his life up for him. He got married and has kids now. We occasionally run into each other and he is civil as am I but there is a distance. It is toughest on me because I have come to realize he was the best match for me yet. He is lost to me now though and I can never again have with him what I once did. Now some 27 years later I still think about him, but I have a new straight buddy who I love to pieces but there is no force on this earth that could make me tell him so. He has to come on to me and that's that. At one point I believe he was scrapping with his old lady and he told me he thought he was going to have to move in with me. That would be very hard for me, and I know he would eventually go back to her. I have no chance. There again I am happy with the friendship, only women **** their best friend. I hate them for that.