I'm doomed, aren't I?

GlindaofOz · Sep 7, 2007, 11:15 AM

Are you interested in things outside of computers? That can definitely help with the opposite sex. Most of the "computer geeks" I know are really into computers but also really into cars, golf, carpentry and so on.

Just because you know a lot about computers will not make you doomed to sit alone coding into the wee hours of the night. Try to do some more social things and I'm sure you will meet a girl who thinks computers are fascinating. Maybe there is even a cute "geek" gal out there just waiting for someone like you.

nicespringgirl · Sep 7, 2007, 11:19 AM

Another thing is...have you completed your degree yet? Are you working?

I know my friend who made As in maths thought he was going to be a CPA but he ended up playing music.

What you have stated is your thought is it? Are you officially a computer geek yet? It requires certain level and education background, do you have it?

Biggie · Sep 7, 2007, 11:40 AM

It won't let me rate your answers. To the first post, I'm not much of a socializer and don't enjoy many things other than computers.

To the second post, I was never good in school. Whatever knowledge I have mostly comes from my experiences in life. I guess I'm not an official computer geek, but I get called that a lot.

GlindaofOz · Sep 7, 2007, 11:48 AM

Well I think you ought to cultivate some interests outside of computers maybe that will help you feel more well rounded and as if you are not doomed. Also you may meet new friends in the process. Write down a list of 5 things that you've always wanted to do or try and set out to do them.

nicespringgirl · Sep 7, 2007, 12:22 PM

Biggie, I read your other posts too- I remember the one that you stated that you are 26, single don't want to have kids...
You need to get out and meet some new friends and try to talk the girl you are interested in, be confident and please don't sit there and judge yourself- if you can get a girlfriend, if girls will like you.

You are completely fine and not doomed. Give youself a chance and stop being too hard on yourself, okay?

Go out tonight with your friends, stay positive!

Biggie · Sep 7, 2007, 12:50 PM

The post about me not wanting kids is pretty accurate. I have nothing against them, I just don't see myself as the parental type. I've been an uncle since I was 9 and that is what I'm used to. I have a niece who is almost a year old and she can test my patience sometimes. Don't let cuteness fool you.

And for a 26 year old, I already have gray hair, and it's noticeable. I even found a few in my beard already, but that's a story for another day.

GlindaofOz · Sep 7, 2007, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Biggie

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And for a 26 year old, I already have gray hair, and it's noticeable. I even found a few in my beard already, but that's a story for another day.

Big whoop! I've been going gray since I was 21 I stopped letting it bother me immediately after I found one. People will respond to you how you tell them to respond to you. If you feel good about yourself then people will react positively to you and feel good about being around you. Not for nothing but no one wants to be around someone or date someone who doesn't feel good about themselves. You need to feel proud of your accomplishments and the fact that you are so talented at computers. Instead of seeing it as a burden see it for what it is a real gift. Try to put a positive spin on the things in your life. Change your attitude change your life. It sounds trite but it really works.

Biggie · Sep 7, 2007, 01:34 PM

Actually, I don't mind the gray all that much. I'm just going to leave it alone anyway, I'll never dye it. I guess you could say I don't feel good about myself, but it's been like that since I was a child, probably around 4th grade. I just live with it. I don't hang around people for the reason that I don't want to be a downer.

GlindaofOz · Sep 7, 2007, 01:40 PM

Well that's no fun! I think that you really need to focus on the good things about yourself and I think you will find that you feel better about who you are. Maybe the more you got out there and try to make friends the better you will feel about yourself.

You are giving yourself a self fulfilling prophecy if you do nothing then yes you will be alone. But if you make efforts and get out there and try things that are uncomfortable or out of the ordinary for you then you run the risk of making friends and meeting girls.

Wondergirl · Sep 7, 2007, 01:41 PM

Biggie is certainly a good writer and expresses himself well. I bet he would be a good conversationalist.

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