im 16 and ive never been kissed

pixiequeen001 · #1 Jul 2, 2007, 08:37 AM

im 16 and ive never been kissed. i like to hang out with guys, because i like them more than girls, like as friends. im not a slut and i don't sleep around, i just find it easier to get along with guys. anyway, any guy that i hang out with, that i don't like, always likes me. but when i find a guy that im crazy about i always act different and usually mess it up. i can't act like myself around guys that i like and i don't think that that is normal. i sorta become obsessed with being around the guy that i like. iknow thats a turn off being too clingy, but i can't help it. somone help!!!!

Dawn92 · Feb 4, 2008, 06:21 PM

Same age, same problem.
I know what you mean, i always act like a totally different person around the guys that i like and the only ones that actually like me back are the kinda guys i would never be interested in.
I think you just have to keep in mind that you have to act like yourself around that guy or else youre going to hate yourself later on. I know it sounds stupid, but you just have to get in through your head that if youre yourself, guys will be drawn to you.

eaca1234 · Feb 4, 2008, 08:32 PM

me too!
see the thing is i don't care that much but it's embarrassing. and i know it's shallow to say that people would judge me on how far i've gone with a guy (or haven't) but they do.

HistorianChick · Feb 6, 2008, 02:05 PM

Hey darlin! Here is a posting from someone in your same situation - only a year younger.... http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/n...ng-179798.html

Basically, no, that's not wrong. It will happen when it's perfect. You'll get that first kiss when its right

Don't worry about it!

It's perfectly normal not to feel like you can act like yourself when you're around a guy you like... I'm a teenage-girlhood-survivor and I know EXACTLY what you're talking about. The best thing I can tell you is not to worry. Don't worry about what a guy thinks about you when you are being yourself.... because... the guys that are worth it are going to love you for who you are, not what you look like, or how you smell, or if your hair is shiny.

Just be you. And you'll find that perfectly, amazing, wonderfully sweet, drop-dead-gorgeous, knight in shining armor out there JUST FOR YOU!

Keep your chin up, hon!

al1012 · Feb 7, 2008, 03:15 PM

i am the same age and had the same prob... but i got a gf not and we had r first kiss like 2 weeks after we started dating...
sorry but if u cant find a guy that likes u bucause you are ur self then dont try to date him...

sorry but i am skinny and my gf is skinny but i dont like her bucause she is skinny . i like her bucause she likes me for who i am not because of me body or how i look and the same thing why i like her she act her self around me

but u need to find 1 that likes u for who u r and not how u look

pnkydo123 · Oct 26, 2009, 02:19 PM

i have the same problem. i just turned 16 a week ago and i have never kissed a guy. all of the guys that like me r kind of weird. i was sexually harassed by a guy who was like obssesed with me. just try 2 be patient that right guy will come along soon enough and when you do kiss it will be really nice and special because you waited.

ii joey ii · Oct 27, 2009, 08:15 AM

dont worry about being clingy the girl im dating right now i met her at the begining of 8th grade and she was so clingy she always wanted to be righ next to me and finaly i just gave it a chance so i started dating her and now i have been with her for 1 year and 3 months and i love her more than anything in this world ....and dont worry about being kissed ur only 16......i bet u will be kissed by the end of the year dont worry bout it ....u seem pretty cool if u wanna talk hit me up on my email ....... [email address]

jaime90 · Oct 27, 2009, 12:55 PM

I know the feeling. I have very few female friends, I just get along and relate to guys so much more. I started hanging out with the guys when i was 14 years old. I never slept around, and I didn't have my first kiss until I found my one and only. I knew he was the one, and I had my first ever kiss on my 18th birthday- we're now engaged- he's my only boyfriend, my only fiance, and I gave my first kiss to him. Your first kiss is a gift to "the one." Save it for him, and don't feel the pressure to get physical with guys before marriage- it's not worth it.

jordyadele · Oct 29, 2009, 02:14 AM

im glad that you havent kissed anyone yet! you cant just give out kisses to anyone that asks! they have to be special. i had my first kiss when i was 18 and i dont regret it at all because i saved it for the man i want to spend the rest of my life with. we are commited to each other! your kisses should be special too. dont fret over being 16 and never having kissed anyone. alot of us have been in the same boat and maybe your man hasnt been kissed by a gal either! maybe you both can save your first kisses for each other...you just never know.