Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask

If my husband died, can I date his best friend

Asked Feb 11, 2010, 03:09 PM — 8 Answers
My fianc? And I were together for 8 years. He cheated on several occasions but recently he came home and told me he loved someone else. He was with this women for two months. He still lived with our daughter and I but we were separated. He started to use drugs and just was turning me off. He still provided to the fullest so I never saw the sense in putting him out. The morning he decided to leave his smutt alone, he died in a car accident. During our whole relationship, he spoke highly of his best friend. His best friend was in jail our whole relationship for something he didn't do. I recently met him for the first time after my fianc?'s death. He is coming home due to the police hiding information related to his case. I would never make the first move, but I really like him. Am I wrong.

Search this Thread
Share |
8 Answers
Fr_Chuck's Avatar
Fr_Chuck Posts: 72,624, Reputation: 37031
Expert
  
#2

Feb 11, 2010, 04:36 PM


HUM, in jail, but of course he did not do it ? Frind of a drug user ,

Not rating way up on my great date list.
Helpful  (1)
CarrotTalker's Avatar
CarrotTalker Posts: 392, Reputation: 944
Full Member
  
#3

Feb 11, 2010, 04:43 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck View Post
HUM, in jail, but of course he did not do it ? Frind of a drug user ,

Not rating way up on my great date list.
Agreed! Sounds like she needs to aim for a little better quality of a man.
Helpful  (1)
Kitkat22's Avatar
Kitkat22 Posts: 6,303, Reputation: 6085
Über Member
  
#4

Feb 11, 2010, 04:51 PM
You need to think about your child before you think of anyone. Don't jump into something that may be dangerous to her.. Do you watch the news?
Helpful
jaime90's Avatar
jaime90 Posts: 1,157, Reputation: 850
Ultra Member
  
#5

Feb 12, 2010, 09:51 AM
Why are you going for the losers? This guy was in jail, and just got out. Why don't you give him a break and let him straighten his life out first?
Helpful  (1)
Kitkat22's Avatar
Kitkat22 Posts: 6,303, Reputation: 6085
Über Member
  
#6

Feb 12, 2010, 11:17 AM
You need to be by yourself . Spend time with your child! Make your child your first priority! Don't bring an ex con around your daughter. What is this guy in for? How long has your husband been gone?
Helpful
Gemini54's Avatar
Gemini54 Posts: 2,875, Reputation: 5623
Ultra Member
  
#7

Feb 13, 2010, 12:58 AM
I'd be taking some time to think, grieve and recuperate before starting a relationship with anyone. Rebound relationships are the ones most likely to fail because we tend to choose someone similar to our previous partner.

Why don't you wait, enjoy your life as a single person for a while before leaping into another relationship?

Now's not the time to be making these sort of decisions.
Helpful  (1)
talaniman's Avatar
talaniman Posts: 44,362, Reputation: 50371
Senior Family & People Expert
  
#8

Feb 14, 2010, 10:30 AM


if my husband died, can I date his best friend

Sure but ask yourself why you settle for losers first. I would give this a lot of thought before I make a decision, given what you have already gone through. Not just you, but your daughter as well.

She should come before you chose any other guy to replace her father.
Helpful  (1)
Kitkat22's Avatar
Kitkat22 Posts: 6,303, Reputation: 6085
Über Member
  
#9

Feb 14, 2010, 11:03 AM
I don't understand why a women who just lost a "husband" would want to jump right in to another relationship. The husband was on drugs and lived with the girlfriend and sometimes with you. So now his wrongly convicted friend is getting out of prison and you want to start a relationship with him.

Exactly what part of "wait and don't do it"do you not understand. Is having a man in your life more important than your child? How long has your "husband been gone"? Why is the guy in prison?
Helpful
Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.

Remove Text Formatting
 

Undo
Redo
  
Decrease Size
Increase Size
Bold
Italic
Underline
Align Left
Align Center
Align Right
Ordered List
Unordered List
Decrease Indent
Increase Indent
Insert Email Link
Wrap [QUOTE] tags around selected text
Wrap [CODE] tags around selected text
Wrap [HTML] tags around selected text
Wrap [PHP] tags around selected text
Wrap [YOUTUBE] tags around selected text
Notification Type:



Check out some similar questions!

Asking A friend Of my ex for a date [ 2 Answers ]

Hello, My ex has a friend that I get along with well and I really like! I think that she is against dating her friends ex's,(so I'm told by my ex) but I think that given the chance, we would really hit it off! I have talked to her lately and asked her to call me sometime and maybe we could go out...

Am I going to die soon and leave my husband and 2 kids all alone? [ 9 Answers ]

Am I going to die soon?

My best friend might die [ 6 Answers ]

This morning I got terrible news. A chilhood friend of mine might leave the world pretty soon....he was at home and he fell off a friends truck and he fell onto the pavement hitting his head and making his brain jerk back and forth. He suffered a bruised brain and puncture wound. When I got to...

Should I date my best friend? [ 3 Answers ]

I have known him for 5 years now and we both hang out witht the same people...there are 4 of us and we are all best friends...I wanted to know if we shouldgo out...me and him are notthe kind of people to willingly shar our feelings and yet we all talk to each other about everything...I don't want...

View more Dating questions Search