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How to tell a girl how you feel about her?

Asked May 26, 2008, 02:53 PM — 13 Answers
So I found out I am useless at flirting. I just can't do it. I need to tell this girl how I feel about her before she gets bored with me because I think I am coming across as indifferent.

I really like her, I want to start something serious with her, not just to be friends. How do I let her know that? I can't just blurt it out.

If I could flirt better than that would work well because it can build up that way. Plus I really want to go for that kiss but getting there is not so easy.

Is there any way I can make it easier to tell her? No idea how I should put it into words.

Summary Fear of telling someone how you feel about them when you're not sure they feel the same way plagues us all through all stages of life. Some people seem to be better at it than others.

Suggestions to this question include just coming out and telling her how the questioner feels, sending the object of his affection a gift as a conversation starter about his feelings, instead of looking at building a rapport with her as "useless flirting", look at it at building a foundation so you can move up eventually to a more intimate state.

If tools are needed to get over the fear, some have suggested using your writing skills, even if it's just to keep it as a backup in case you get tongue tied. In the end, be honest about what you're feeling and take the jump.
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concernedmom26 Posts: 26, Reputation: 10
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May 26, 2008, 07:53 PM
Just do it! When your alone with her or somewhere where you both feel conferable, say something to break the ice to what you are going to say like,...I like being around you, you are a really awesome person, or your eyes are the most beautiful shade of blue (or whatever color they are) then as your looking into them tell her...I have something to tell you, and I'd like to just be honest with you rather than keep it inside, so here goes, when I see you I get this funny feeling, and that feeling tells me that I really like you and would like to see you a lot more, I feel better now that I told you, you don't have to say anything, I just thought you should know. Then....you just see where it goes....I know I would be swooned....let me know if it helped at all.
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May 29, 2008, 04:15 PM
Well your right there youcant just blurt it out ! Well I think that you should ask her out sometime... Say it something like this "what are you doing this weekend ? And if she says nothing say something like well there's this movie that I've been wanting to watch at the thearters would you like to go with me? " that's what id do and if she likes you I'm sure shell say yes... If she says she's busy just simply say is there any time your not busy that you'd like to go with me? My advice is if she likes you most defenitely she wount turn you down! I hope I helped
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May 29, 2008, 05:15 PM
If you can't tell her face to face the write it in an empty simply card, don't be scare she even accept or reject it, either way you told her. Wouldn't you prefer then going through life looking back thinking you should have, give any suggestion a try, personal I like the card idea.
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Jun 4, 2008, 08:27 AM
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Originally Posted by concernedmom26
Just do it! When your alone with her or somewhere where you both feel conferable, say something to break the ice to what you are going to say like,...I like being around you, you are a really awesome person, or your eyes are the most beautiful shade of blue (or whatever color they are) then as your looking into them tell her...I have something to tell you, and I'd like to just be honest with you rather than keep it inside, so here goes, when I see you I get this funny feeling, and that feeling tells me that I really like you and would like to see you a lot more, I feel better now that I told you, you don't have to say anything, I just thought you should know. Then....you just see where it goes....I know I would be swooned....let me know if it helped at all.
Yeah that sounds good and it works in my head, but when it comes down to it I just couldn't do it. Waiting for the right moment, but it was never going to happen. So... I'm going to tell her in writting. It is easier for me to say what I mean in writting too.
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Jun 5, 2008, 09:20 AM
Rather than "telling" her that you'd like to see a lot more of her - simply do it. Talk to her, be interested in her, ask her out to lunch, for a shake, make opportunities to *do* stuff together.

If a guy tells me how much he likes me but never does anything about it, he's not a contender - he's just talking.
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Jun 5, 2008, 12:28 PM
Ask her advice. Tell her you like a girl and aren't sure how to tell her. Ask her how she'd like to be told.

Then ask her about kissing. Tell her you're not sure if you're a good kisser and wonder if a girl would even like your kisses. Ask her how you're supposed to know if you're a good kisser or not. She may playfully offer to "practice" with you.

Now, tell her you like HER using the words/way she told you to use. Then ask if you can practice kissing some more.

See, we're having fun! Girls like fun.
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Jun 5, 2008, 02:27 PM
If you have problems voicing it to her then use your creative side. My ex give me the most cutest teddy bear with a shirt that said simply "be mine", and when I got it I took it as a simple teddy bear gift, but he called me and asked what the message said and I said lets give it a try.

If your good at writing then do it but you still going have to get the butterflies out your stomach and talk to her afterwards.
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daza 4 lc Posts: 14, Reputation: -1
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Jun 7, 2008, 06:59 PM
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Just do it! When your alone with her or somewhere where you both feel conferable, say something to break the ice to what you are going to say like,...I like being around you, you are a really awesome person, or your eyes are the most beautiful shade of blue (or whatever color they are) then as your looking into them tell her...I have something to tell you, and I'd like to just be honest with you rather than keep it inside, so here goes, when I see you I get this funny feeling, and that feeling tells me that I really like you and would like to see you a lot more, I feel better now that I told you, you don't have to say anything, I just thought you should know. Then....you just see where it goes....I know I would be swooned....let me know if it helped at all.
That is a brillaint answer
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Jun 7, 2008, 10:43 PM
This is my area, make her comfortable don't come on to strong. Try to read her sometimes its hard, use humor and take it or leave it attitude even if you really want her. And remember they want what they can't have. BE confident! And no cat calls!
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