How long does it take a guy to call after a first date?
Asked Jul 19, 2007, 09:33 PM
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So, I had a really great date with this guy last night...nice conversation, goodnight kisses, I thought it went really well. I text messaged him today that I had a great time with him on our date and he wrote back that he had an amazing time as well. However, he didn't call today and I thought that he would. Is it normal not to call? This is the first date I've been on since getting out of a 3 year relationship, so maybe I am just expecting too much. Any opinions/suggestions? Thanks! =)
LOL wow! Why do guys do this? I know how exciting it is when there were sparks flying, and how big of a let down it can be when he doesn't call! Most guys, if they are truly interested, will call within 3 days. They don't want to come off as being clingy or let you know that you've "got" them yet, so a lot of times they wait. I know it's not the case all of the time. Sometimes it could be that they're busy or another reason. But...in my experience that is what I've learned. Good luck and I hope that he calls soon!
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It was your first date. Let him have his time and relax and have yours. There's no rush. But if it comes to the one week point then maybe you could text him and ask him if he wants to go out for drinks or something.
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LOL my current boyfriend didn't call me or text me for 6 days after our first date, on which he told me he was falling for me etc. Etc. Later down the line I asked him why he would do such a cruel thing to such a sweet girl with a huge crush on him and he replied that he felt text messaging would not be "personal" enough and regaurding the phone calls he said "I was waiting for you to call me!"
Men are mysterious creatures! LOL I wouldn't worry too much about it
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I once had a friend say that a man is never allowed to call a girl the day after the first date. He has really weird notions of what is and isn't proper about dating, and he follows a two-day rule. Sometimes the three-day rule if he really likes her. For a friday date, he says it isn't appropriate to call her until Monday. I never got it, but apparently, there are a lot of young men out there that follow these bizarre dating rules.
You ever see that dropped call commercial where the guy calls the girl the next day to say he had a good time, gets cut off right after he asks whether it was too soon to call, and then freaks? Guys apparently worry about this stuff.
Go figure!
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I didn't come up with this, but an idea might be to eliminate all contact with him. Give him the gift of missing you. Hard to do, but might work. Don't worry that he didn't call you when he said he would. Could have been for any number of reasons. Maybe he is giving you the gift I mentioned. Works well doesn't it?
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Depend on the case, it's different for everyone!
BUT you let him call first! You don't make the move after the first date, you are the jewel that he has to win you.
Good luck.
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He may expect you to be the one to call. Text messaging isn't always the key to a relationship. It's not REALLY talking. Try to call him and if he doesn't answer leave a message. If he doesn't call back he's either busy, uncomfortable calling you, or doesn't care (which I highly doubt.) Good luck.
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Relax and give things a chance. That's what he's doing. Constant calling and contact, especially in the early stages, is never a good thing.
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Too much waiting is not a good thing. Me personally, I would call sooner if I was interested, but I would also expect some kind of move from her, esp because he may just be a little scared.
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