Hello everyone, I wanted to know what is a respectable time period for two people who are dating to start having sex?

24hr - 1,2,3 months or what?

And how long are you willing to wait?

Fr_Chuck

what ever happened till you were married ???

Still get alot of people here that are in thier 20's and 30's that are still virgins. But we get others that don't know thier partners last name and do it on the first date.

I go for marriage and if not till at least a long term seroius relationship and we are talking alot longer than 3 months

Marriedguy

I think waiting for marriage is out of the questions these days. I really that you should have sex boyfriend or girlfriend before you decide to try to spent the rest of your life with this person.

frangipanis

good question. I'd say it would be a combination of time to let thoughts and feelings sink-in properly, and how much you know about the other person. Probably between two to three months if you've spoken a lot and exchanged important facts and thoughts, have met a number of times, and you know this person is special to you. Being sure you want to enter into a long-term relationship with them would be most important.

ISneezeFunny

My girlfriend and I waited a year before we started having sex...

Marriedguy

@ ISneeezeFunny; Wow. A year thats kind of extreme. Longest I waited was about 6 months.

templelane

I'm with Sneeze, a year is what I waited with my boyfriend and I'd try and do the same again. I wouldn't even consider it before 6 months. EDIT not that I think there is anything wrong with people who don't, it's just that is what feels comfortable for me.

Marrage, however, I definately wouldn't do- try before you buy and all that! I would hate to get married to somebody and then find out we were sexually incompatible.

Also being non religious the only reason I would get married would be if I wanted to have children and then it would be to aid finacial and legal aspects of child rearing.

ISneezeFunny

Well, we were in college...I was not a virgin, but she was...and she wanted to wait until she knew that I was one of the guys she could "possibly spend the rest of her life with."

N0help4u

Marriage is best, but with this instant convenient mentality that we now have it seems to be within 7-11-24 hrs. Sex first cause you *love* the packaging, questions later, then you realize what did I get myself into ?????

Short of marriage:
Get to know *HIM rather than how he wants you to see *him
Watch for all RED FLAGS
Get an idea of his family life and upbringing -I have come to realize that DOES tell a lot
work history --if he doesn't work he most likely has a lazy attitude about life
also I like to do a birth chart with basic astrological traits w/ a numerology profile for people --more accurate than anything usually-- I do NOT do the daily and future stuff with the astrology though
Also for me I have started telling guys, "I ain't no easy sleazy, no sloppy seconds. I don't want a dead end relationship. If that is what you want they come a dime a dozen so go spend your dime/time down the road.

*him *he /her she

Simple Asian

lol...you no i always wondering what happends to sex after married ..lol...but there is no such thing as sex after married anymore ...

as us human maturely growing up everyday ..and the socialty these day becoming ...this kind of physical need is no longer can hold on to ...

well ...it depend on whenever you feel like you ready then u ready ...dont ever let anyone force you or you willing to do it b.c you want to keep him/her to you