Hello everyone, I wanted to know what is a respectable time period for two people who are dating to start having sex?

24hr - 1,2,3 months or what?

And how long are you willing to wait?

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

I definitely agree that a potential relationship needs to feel out the intimacy part before making big desicions.

I was a virgin and waited with my boyfriend for 3 months. Not to short and not to long...for me anyways.

MOWERMAN2468

ummm, lets see, wait until after the preacher pronounces you husband and wife.

isabelgopo

no more than 2 weeks!!!!!!!!!!!

Marriedguy

Listen, everyone is entitled their own opinions and if you read the guidelines to leaving negative comments they would know, and understand that you don’t leave because your opinion is different.

Now, let me address this whole waiting to get married which does not work for one. Two people who love each other should not wait until a church or government declares husband and wife. Sex which I feel is important and big deal should happen when two people decided that they are ready. And when there are ready they should use protection.

With the answer wait until they marriage means that couple could on the first date get married and in Vegas have sex and get it realized that they made a mistake and get the marriage annulled the next day.

Not when some Church or government establishment says there and now husband and wife. I honestly marriage starts in the hearts and minds of two people first. The actually act of getting married in the spiritual and legal manifestations of that.

I know couples that are just dating that have stronger relationship then people in 10-20 year old marriage.

Where in the Holy Bible does it state anything about marriage – the way men and women were joined together in the good book through sex relationship would recite give you chapters in verses but this not the forum.

Second, I think it is totally disrespectful and unethical to even assume that everyone subscribes to your belief. With the 300 + different dominations of Christianity, which makes you think that I subscribe to yours? How do you know we don’t share the same faith in which your answer has its origin?

Finally, the STDs rates are so high because people are having unprotected sex. How does having sex less they a year time increase STD rates? Newlywed couples are more likely to pass a STD on each other because they will most likely will have unprotected sex. Or does you argument just assume that this two people would be virgins when they get together?

NowWhat

I would say the waiting game isn't necessarily about time. "In 2 months we are having sex"
I think it is about or should be when you can fully trust someone. When you can trust them with your heart, mind then your body.

Now, if you just want sex and not the relationship, then I guess the above would not apply.
If you are wanting to make love - then you should wait until you know it is more than just sex for the other person.

I do like the idea of waiting until marriage - I wish I had done that.

mafiaangel180

It depends on how much you talk, how often you see each other. I think two people know when it just feels right. It used to be that it took two months for me. Ideally I would want to wait 5 months, but having a set time is unrealistic. Face it...if there's a connection and the mood is right....candles, wine, music, a cabin in the middle of no where....do you really want to look back with regret and think "damn I shoulda porked her!" NO!!!!! lol.

liar2

I think marriage is best for virgins only!! if you r a person who knows how sex feels wit other people waiting to get married to a particular person can be a mistake.... Not every man can do it the way i want it. I dont think i would take the chance. But i say it all depends on the individuals...... But if u looking for a relationship to last... i think after 4 to six months should be sufficient time. Knowing them and getting along is more important i believe.

frangipanis

i tend to agree with mafiangle180 except for the 'porking' bit lol.

However, people can make really stupid mistakes and knowing the other person sufficiently well enough takes time (there are no shortcuts) and without a little patience, giving in to the emotional rush of taking advantage of a lovely warm moment can lead to a hellish roller-coaster ride that can last for years. That's because once you take that step, it's much trickier to exctract yourself from the other person as sex can give a relationship momentum it wouldn't otherwise have. Besides, the build up of waiting to take the next step can be just as romantic and wonderful, and why not savour those early days of a new relationship? Waiting gives you both a special time to look back on, and greater trust in each other that you're not likely to skip off with someone else when struck by a similar mood.