Okay. Lets see here my love of my life just stopped loving me back. This was just out of no where the other day she was saying how much she loves me and how she never felt this way about a guy like this before and then all the sudden she texts me and says i don't think it will work out anymore, and i don't know what to do because i still love with all of my heart i, and i think she has feelings for me still. but, I heard from her friend she also likes another guy which is one of my good friends. I want to win her back and i just don't know how. i really need somebody's help. i asked some people what i should do and they said not to act like you need her anymore but still talk to her but not too much because "less is more", not to win her back with gifts, to never keep tabs on where she is going or who she is going with, i shouldn't attempt to get in the way of her dating someone else, and not to be her best friend. And that is what i have been told and read but i don't if it works and i really want to get her back so if anyone can help. Please Help.

krissyg2991

Well, for one, I doubt she "lost" her love for you spontaneously and out of the blue. I'm sure that she felt that way for awhile and was just afraid to tell you. She didn't want to hurt you. Maybe she doesn't love you anymore but still has feelings for you; feeling love for someone and just having feelings for someone are still actually very different things. There's fondness and there's love. Get it? As for getting her back, I'm not sure. Forcing things on her will only make it hurt or lead her to think you're a stalker type, which, if you really love her, you'll try hard to avoid either of these. However, I don't think it'd be out of line for you to sit her down and ask her how she feels, if she's felt this way long, and why.
Ask her for a chance to make things better. You can't make someone fall in love with you unless she gives you a chance to prove yourself. That whole "act like you don't need her" business is petty stuff that is only effective on playing on her emotions and does nothing to improve a serious relationship; it's just pushing her buttons in the right sequence to get the response you want-not growing or bonding with her in any way. That seems like a sure-fire way for her to walk away for ever. The only way is to have a heart-to-heart, "let's-grow-together" discussion, if she'll give you that chance.

Altenweg

It's takes two, if one person has lost interest then there's nothing you can do. There is no "winning" her back, she either comes back because she realizes she still loves you, or she moves on and you have to do the same.

You're just torturing yourself by thinking you can win her back. I know it hurts, I know it sucks, but really, there's nothing you can do, the ball's in her court.

Good luck.

JBeaucaire

You can't "get" her back. That's a myth and a desparation cry from your heart. Understandable, but pretty pointless.

She might "come back on her own" if you move on with your life, ACTUALLY move on and dive into your next chapter and don't look back. If you appear to be unaffected by her dumping you, she will at least question her decision. She won't come back yet, but she will pause.

And if you immediately start dating, having fun with others, don't shy away from her or act weirded out in any way when you see her, just cool old Ben living it up and being in the "fun car", she may start to wonder why she left you...you're cool.

Meanwhile, you really ARE trying to focus on other things, people, activities, etc. Since SHE dumped you, you have no choice. And being an ambitious, fun guy attracts a LOT of girls, so this should make things easier all the way around.

In the end, you'll accidentally stumble onto a GREAT girl who likes you way more and is worth your time and you'll be glad, or while you're having fun your ex will try and come back into your life. Either way you're on top and not moping, right?

And in the off chance she does come back under these circumstances, then you're in control, too. You won't be her little puppy dog she can call anytime she wants. You'll have control of your own leash.

...and you'll be cool...riding in the "fun car."

hjpan

Jesushelper76

Its over. No wining back. Yes, Sounds like another guy. Your best bet is walking away and be thankful that it has not gone any further.

You can take in everybodies advice but in the end it has to be you that makes that deicison, on how to deal with this.

My opinion though is that your getting yourself in trouble if you persue this. So it is up to her what she does in her life and it has nothing to do with you now.

Best wishes for you.