How fast do people fall in love?

Dingbat · #1 Apr 21, 2007, 09:45 PM

Sometimes everything falls into place and love happens so fast, and sometimes it builds over time. How quickly have you fallen in love?

kp2171 · Apr 21, 2007, 10:39 PM

i respect fr's opinions, but i really, really disagree that love takes 20 years... tho ask me again in another 13 yrs after ive hit my 20th anniv... maybe ill change my mind.

the problem is the definition of love. i loved a girl when i was 17. i loved another when i was 24. as you grow older, you understand the difference between infatuation and love. but that doesnt mean you didnt love at 17. you loved to the capacity you had.

not that infatuation or "puppy love" is bad or wrong. as a child you are (hopefully) told about being loved... caring. and that idea grows and changes over time. so can a 17 year old love? sure. but usually in a "limited way"....

more experience and understanding can help you temper the hormones and begin to see when there is something that is different.

so... the problem with your question is that love takes many forms. i think when you are younger you are more prone to falling in love faster because you havent experienced anything like it before. when you are older you might understand the difference between "deep like" (or lust) and love. i sincerely love my wife (10 year relationship, 7+ year marriage... i guess im ahead of the curve) but i didnt love her in the first year of dating. i liked her a lot, but i was old enough and experienced enough to know love was still to come.

so sorry. i cant tell how long it "should" take. there just isnt a script.

LuvMyMaltipoo · Apr 21, 2007, 10:58 PM

If I could 'rate your answer' again kp I would! Well said!

Rina _4 · Apr 22, 2007, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

Love takes at least 20 years, lust and friendship starts it, It will start growing from the early stages, but deep true love is not something you fall into, it is something that takes alot of hard work

I agree with Chuck. You can only fall in love when you are getting to KNOW the person.

amylove · Jul 16, 2007, 08:08 AM

takes hard work and is an emotional rollacoster at least 4-5 years atleast

Moomin · Jul 16, 2007, 08:16 AM

How long is a piece of string?

Though don't forget some people believe in love at first sight!
My personal opinion is that you both need to be feeling the same, love (obviously) does not work if it is one sided!

Squiffy · Jul 16, 2007, 08:24 AM

I think it depends on the persons involved. I have fallen into 'love' very quickly, but really it was just lust. Sometimes not even that! I was with my current partner for a year before I realised I actually loved him, and I think you know from the feelings you have. I also dont agree that love takes hard work, maintaining a loving relationship can take a lot of work and dedication, especially when things get tough, but true love shouldnt need to be worked at, its a feeling not an action.



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