How do you get over someone you love after breaking up?

casper352 · #1 Nov 25, 2007, 07:08 PM

Ok so exactly one month ago me and my boyfriend broke up. It was very in the moment and we haven't spoken more than 5 sentences since then. I know he had a hard time at first getting over it and I definitly did. Neither of us did anything wrong it just sort of fizzled and we were fighting a lot but I haven't gone a day without thinking about him since. I've done everything to try to get over him: I deleted him from my phone (but I have his number memorized so it makes no difference), I wrote a list of memories and burned them (but I still remember them), I asked a different guy to the senior winter dance and then two girls raced to ask him (which made me 30984 times more jealous). I JUST NEED SOME ADVICE!! how do i get over him?? I need to stop thinking about him, missing him, being in love with him, etc...THANK YOU

grandmamatiny · Nov 25, 2007, 07:22 PM

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Originally Posted by casper352

Ok so exactly one month ago me and my boyfriend broke up. It was very in the moment and we haven't spoken more than 5 sentences since then. I know he had a hard time at first getting over it and I definitly did. Neither of us did anything wrong it just sort of fizzled and we were fighting a lot but I haven't gone a day without thinking about him since. I've done everything to try to get over him: I deleted him from my phone (but I have his number memorized so it makes no difference), I wrote a list of memories and burned them (but I still remember them), I asked a different guy to the senior winter dance and then two girls raced to ask him (which made me 30984 times more jealous). I JUST NEED SOME ADVICE!! how do i get over him?? I need to stop thinking about him, missing him, being in love with him, etc...THANK YOU

Is it so bad thinking about him? Its amazing at these times how easy it is to remember all of the good times and none of the bad one. How does it make you feel when you think about him? Is it painful or do you just feel lonesome? How long were you two a couple?

casper352 · Nov 25, 2007, 07:39 PM

i just feel so lonely..we were together about a year and he was my best friend. you're exactly right when you say i'm just looking back at the good things because it wasn't all good or we'd still be together but I guess I just want to forget him because it makes me so sad to think I lost my best friend. Do you think I should talk to him? Or just let it settle until eventually I am over him?

Queen0804 · Nov 25, 2007, 07:49 PM

I think u should take ur time and see other guys. I have been there onces with my 1st love and man did I love him! we've been together for 3 years and been best friends since I was 14 and still are. and I really can't even imagine ever loving him of course I won't ever forget about hime but I don't love anymore. U'll get over him if that decision is really from your heart. So don't blame ur self for thinking about him because honestly he is thinking about you too (even though guys don't like to admit things like that). Take your sweet time hun and you'll forget about him no time.

perfectlyhappy · Nov 26, 2007, 05:03 PM

I too was in a similar situtation....my boyfriend and me were together for a year and a half when we broke up...i thought we were perfect together but it wasn't until after we broke up that i realized we did fight...you said that you did fight which atleast means you acknowledge it wasn't perfect ...but then again it never is....i still wonder if i'm over him...and we broke up in june....its hard....and as hard as it sounds not talking to him will make it easier...i made it worse by calling everyday and trying to be friends...maybe after awhile you can try that road but so soon i'm no sure.....as far as how you get over him??? I have no clue....it will happen though....i made the mistake of jumping into another relationship in august and i know i wasn't completely over him...its wasn't fair to my new boy...but it did get my mind off everything and it shows you that you are capable of loving someone else.....first loves hurt....i would recommend just being calm, friendly, and keeping your distance....if that doesn't work try something else....i think your a smart gal...do what you think is best.

billabong · Dec 1, 2007, 05:58 PM

i wish my gf felt like that

blackwolf-kaida · Dec 1, 2007, 09:16 PM

it takes time. an its not easy. im still trying to get over someone that i was with over a yr ago. it dont help when you yourself cant let go



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