Last Sunday a girl that I was seein who I was very serious about told me not to waste my time and that she didnot feel the same way I did.

Well a few days have past and things are a little better for me. But I just got news from my friend that I will probabaly see her on Sunday.

Now I still have feelings for her. But I know she don't for me. We have not yet talked since that day on the phone. In my mind I feel she owes me an better explanation. But I know Im not going to get it.

So, my question is how do i react to this????????????????????????????????? :

huno

Short answer: you don't.

Long answer: you don't.



--huno

P.S.: okay, so what do I mean by that? Well, if she sees that you're hurt and worried and still thinking about her, she will like you even less. Girls don't like guys that center their whole lives around them; they like guys who are cool, calm, collected, and just a little cocky. When you see her at the party, just be completely oblivious to the situation--act like there was never a break-up, you never had a relationship, like you barely know her. If you're with your friends and she happens to come around, be polite: smile, say hi, make some chit-chat, and move on to the next person. Conversely, don't overblow your enthusiasm for being at the party (that is, don't act loud and super-excited just to show her you're happy--all things in moderation, as us old people like to say).

The point of all this is to let her know that you're doing fine and you don't need her. Inside, I'm sure you'll be crying and wishing that you were together, but on the outside be a man and don't let on that you miss her and you want an explanation and all that.

(Oh, while we're at it--don't EVER ask for an explanation. Many times girls don't know for themselves why they do the things they do, and they sure as hell aren't going to try and explain it to you. Besides, it makes you look needy.)

So go to this party and have fun. Talk to your friends, flirt with some girls, and just be yourself. Be polite with her--don't be rude, don't ignore her, don't act like she influences you in any way. Even if it doesn't show right away, you'll come out of this a winner.

P.P.S.: yes, I realize the above was the longest post-script anyone's ever written, but I thought my overly simplistic advice needed an explanation and I'm too lazy to go back and edit it.

TRIZ

sweet thanks

pasiria

I've told several guys I was not interested. I hate it if they persist. It takes so much courage and guts to tell someone flat out that you are not interested. I personally feel very bad about rejecting men. But, it is better not to lead them on if the spark is not there. Just act cool, try to meet someone else who is interested. Also, it is better to hurt someone a little bit with the truth, then it is to kill him with deception.

GlindaofOz

When you ask for a more in depth explanation it sometimes makes the girl feel backed into a corner. I had a guy do this to me once and nothing I said was good enough it forced me to become mean and say some really hateful stuff to him to get him to stop. That is not a road you want to go down.

Trust that she meant what she said. If you see her on Sunday leave her be if she comes up to you be polite but don't expect much.

TRIZ

Well I seen her this past Sunday and we both said Hi to each other which I beleive was out of couresty, nothing else was said. Although As I was 'BEING COOL" She didn't seem like herself, usually she's hanging out with everyone and she had always said " She draws energy from people" But this weekend she did not seem like herself. I know it wasnt because of me, but I guess what I am saying is I am use to seeing her happy and for some reason she wasn't happy.

Anyways , after we said hi and now that she is out of sight, my feeling for her are like there. I donn;t know if i should give up hope. I know she may not be instrested in me, but should I hang on and see if she changes her mind

margarita_momma

Triz,

Just let her go, sweetie. If she flat out told you that she doesn't have feelings for you, then she doesn't. You need to stop dwelling on her and go out and find you are girl that can give you the love and attention you deserve. Maybe later on she will realize she really does care about you but right now, she doesn't feel that way. So let her go and move on with your life. Good Luck!

TRIZ

Thank you So Much.I just feel like she will come around, but I guess I have to move on. It's just something I don't really want to do. But your right.

TRIZ

I was wondering if anyone else cn answer this

huno

There's nothing more to say, Triz--forget about her and move on. Go out and toss a football. Maybe see a movie. Ratatouille seems interesting... a mouse that can cook. Well, I guess it's a rat... but it's still pretty implausible. Still, there's something about a computer-generated version of a filthy animal that leads me to believe it'd be great if he could make me a quesadilla right around now. Goddamn, I'm hungry... but it's 11:30 at night, and I have to go to bed soon, so I can wake up early and hit the gym before work. Can you believe it's Thursday tomorrow? Where did the week go? You'd think work would go slow but actually there's just not enough hours in the day, man... well this weekend's gonna be cool anyway 'cause I have a date. I hope she wears those tight jeans from our first date... sh!t's so tight you'd think her legs had to be stone-washed. I wonder how she puts those things on? She has such a thin waist but great thighs... does she have to pry them on? She probably has a crowbar around whenever she gets dressed... wait--do I still have the crowbar in my car? What if I get a flat? Or break into someone else's car? Man I should go get a crowbar before I forget... is Home Depot open right now? Probably. I'll go get my keys... while I'm out I should go get a quesadilla...



--huno