I met this one guy a couple of weeks ago. Well, actually we met last year already, but everything we talked about was work related. We work at the same place, but we rarely work together... Anyway, we have now started going out. We went to the movies once, went for coffee today, and for now we're also going to go some place on Monday. We always have good conversations and seem to like each other.
But I am just very confused about where this going? I am so in the process of totally falling in love with him (no matter how hard I try to stop it). But I am just dying to know if this is really going somewhere. I simply don't have any more room for another broken heart!
Can anyone tell me how I'd know if he's going out only because he just likes me? Or does he (secretly) want more too?

incognito

"Only because he just likes you" has a very strong possibility of turning into the strong feelings you say you have for him.
You don't fall in love with someone you don't like.
Don't rush things.

amazing

Hi there,

I agree with Incognito.

Keep the guy guessing as much as he keeps you guessing!. Never be tempted to tell him how you feel too early on into the date because guys get scared of deep revelations of love with a girl they are still getting to know. The right time will be when you have both dated for a good amount of time first and whether he and you like each other enough to make it last a good four months at least.

It takes time to get to know people and falling in love is an easy thing to do but for women, it is something we are capable of doing very early on in a relationship. I think if you can just enjoy the way things are as they are for at least more time to come, then the more surer you both will be about how you do feel for each other. It is great that you have found someone you like and so treating him as a best friend first will mean more to him because it shows that you actually are into him because of his interests and likes/dislikes too. men don't just want a lover, they want a good friend above everything else and they take some time before they give their heart away.

Of course, let him know that you like him, but not too much and don't always be available to him either because a little bit of aloofness draws men to women a lot. He sounds nice anyway but yes, I would definitely only tell him how you really feel once you know that he is more serious about you as telling someone too soon can frighten them away. Wait for a bit longer yet. It is going somewhere when he is keen on you already and going out on dates with you (this should tell you that he likes you) but that is enough proof in itself. The love thing is way off yet, but if you continue the way you are now for a few more months to come, then it would be appropriate to tell him how you feel but not at this stage. I know it must be difficult, but you can ask him what he likes about you so far? - He would be okay to tell you that and will give you the answers you are looking for. If he is serious about dating you, then he will say that he likes your personality for example or something about you that isn't just to do with looks. He will be flattered if you ask him.