Hey All,
My G/f broke up with me last week. After not talking to me for a few days she started talking somewhat. Now she said were goign out again. But she said she needs a few days alone. Cause of what I did and she deserves it. So anytime I try to call her she doesnt talk gets angry and hangs up. But then she calls my family like everything is normal and tells them were going out. So I called her today and she was all cold to me and told me she will call me. She calls me later to complain about her shoes I lost so I asked her if we are still going to the movies 2morow and she said yes....

Im soo confused if were going out why the cold shoulder
why does she not want me to call for a few days?
what can it be

tishee_76

Hi Chris,
It's just the way some of us deal with our feelings sometimes, or rather not deal with it.
A couple of questions though, How old are the two of you and what was it that you did thats making her feel so wishy washy?

chrisisruff

im 26 and she's 21. We got into a heated argument and I grabbed her jacket and there was a pair of boots in my care of hers that i threw outside the car.......We have plans 2morow to go to the movies and im scad about the way shes going to act around me....

tishee_76

Oh.. That sounds like a pearler arguement but not really anything to owe a life debt to..?
How long yous been seeing each other? Are you like totally into her? Cos if you are, I reckon some direct communication could be in order or it sounds like this is going nowhere fast..
Why are you worried bout her wanting her own space.. are you suspecting she's sniffing around elsewhere?
Oh, and one more, did you spend alot of time with each other previously?

chrisisruff

We have dated for 2 yrs 3 months. I am into her totally. I never had doubt about her sniffing around but i am kinda worried that shes only 21 and might want to try new things...Im just not sure

tishee_76

Ah yes, just reading your other posts..
Well I gotta congratulate you for goin the distance and asking for directions!!
You obviously want this.

Maybe....
Has anything been discussed recently about ccccc..ccommitment?
Like living arrangements, joint loans, engagement, children...etc
She does sound a little confused within herself..
Like, she's cold then hot.. Isolates you but embraces your family..
It's like she wants you but something has made her a little unsure..
It's either her own perception of the relationship or something done or discussed....
Maybe..?

RubyPitbull

chris, I just saw this post after the last other one you did. Sounds like she is a lot more mature than you, my dear. She will get over this but you can't do stuff like that, man. Not good at all. If you have a disagreement, you need to talk it out. Reactive stuff like throwing things out the car and taking her jacket is very childish. If you really love her, you need to act like a responsible man.

I didn't realize you were dating her as long as you have. At this point in your relationship and at your age, you should be past that kind of stuff. You need to think about how you are treating her and stop what you are doing if you don't want to lose her.

chrisisruff

Heyy RubyPitbull I have to agree with u with certain things I do fall imature with. I will act totally responsable from here on in . I just hope its not to late now. What I mean is if shes always going to remember this and affect the way she feels bout the relationship..

tishee_76

Very true RubyPitbull,
It may actually be a lack of discussions about commitment and maturaty thats bothering her..
Good point!

tishee_76

Anyway chrisisruff I do hope the movies go well and what ever the outcome, it be mutual.
Best Wishes..