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i am an good looking guy of 20 that gets a fair few stares in clubs and around places.. how do girls want to be approached?? is there any kind of technique that works??
There's no method that's guaranteed to work. It depends on the girl, her mood, and whether or not she thinks you seem interesting.
If you're approaching a girl you've never met, just introduce yourself and see if you can get a conversation started. If it doesn't seem to be going anywhere, walk away before it fizzles into embarrassment. DON'T try pick-up lines, and be careful about offerring to buy drinks for her. Some girls will appreciate/be flattered by that kind of offer, but others will find it "creepy".
A guy might have no luck with a girl one day, but with a different girl (or even the same girl on a different day) have complete success, without any differences in his approach. We're a bit onconsistent I'm sorry to say. :P
Try to keep sex off the brain. If you're concerned too much about picking up, it's likely to come accross in your conversation and body language. If you're prepared to just chat, and looked relaxed and friendly, you should be ok. Don't expect too much all at once.
Sorry if I've just been repeating myself... it's pretty late over here.
Well im only 16 and have had no boyfriend experience but i know for a fact that im always scared when it comes to guys like talking to me unless they are like friends or just im not into them thats fine. but i would say just give her a compliment but dont sound corny dont say hot say beautiful. little things like that will change the whole dating scene for you. and might attract more classy girls. hope i helped. mail me?
Dress nicely, no wild "experiments" in wardrobe, ok? You only get one chance at first impressions so go for nice dress-casual.
Ask a girl to dance: "Would you honor me with a dance?"
"Hey, show me that move!"
"You're a great dancer. You're not a professional dancer are you? Hey, wait, that sounds bad...*fake blush*"
Now you're having fun and still not risking talking much yet. Don't be aggressive dancing unless she opens that door.
After dancing, consider letting her go, or offering to buy her a drink then wishing her a good night. The goal is to appear like you're having fun and meeting people and suffering no stress over it at all. The ULTIMATE goal is to have her impressed by your confidence and lack of stress so she offers up her number on her own without having to be asked.
You might even do this several times over several nights with many many women before one responds properly, but won't that be a worthwhile investment? Meanwhile, you're dancing and learning some new moves.
Pay attention to how they are paying attention to you. If they keep looking over your way and smiling it could be an indication that they want you to talk to them. If they keep singling you out like they want to meet you then offer to buy them a drink/pepsi. If they are interested in talking to you they will open up and the conversation should go smooth. If they act like 'he buys me a drink and then acts like I owe him a conversation' then get out quick.
I personally hate getting picked up in a club because 99% of the guys in there are after one thing... I don't know if you are looking for a girl for the night or looking for the girl of your dreams.... so I guess depending on your motivation I would say if it is the latter than be yourself and strike up a conversation that is genuine.
NO PICK UP LINES; they're not creepy just cheesy annoying and a BIG turn-off...i mean can i buy you something to drink is ok...but outside of that: no....umm....if you're at a club ask her to dance....try starting a conversation...a comment about the song playing or something should get it started....i mean there isnt any gurantee of what'll do it...but....those are just some hints
Well I always found it was best to be myself. Be courteous, sincere, honest, and respectable. This is just for starters.
And as AandZ4ever puts it, don't use "hot" as a compliment. That is not you talking, that is your hormones talking. It also shows the girl that you are not seeing her as a person, rather you are simply seeing her as a sex object. Remember the first part of the answer I gave you? This doesn't fit in any of those categories. You may say it fits the "honest" category, but even though, it is still very disrespectful to the young lady and tags you as a "horndog". You must respect the young lady. Tell her she is beautiful or very pretty, but leave the "HOT" for describing the heat from the sun on a hot and sunny day.
fyi- horndog defined- my word used to describe someone that simply is horny, and sees the sexual attraction of a female ONLY and doesn't really care about them as a person. Not saying that females should not be seen as pretty. Just remember there is more to the female than a quick romp in the hay.
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