How do I get over her, And move on

matt1185 · #1 Jul 20, 2008, 01:37 AM

Ok.... So where to start. I guess from the begaining is a good place huh.

So I was about 17, and I met this girl. I fell in love fast, and so did she. Neither of us where expecting a relationship from the start, but it happend. We dated for a year. We where very close and spent all of our free time together, spending the night at eachothers house was not uncommon. So we decided to move in together. It was great. but money problems forced us to move back home about a year later. and soon after broke up, for a few reasons.

So now I'm 22, I'v been dating the same girl for a 2 years, and have lived with for almost the same. It all happend really fast, we both hated our roomates. and decided to move intogether. So it all happend pretty fast. She has now started talking about getting married.

So now here's the problem, I still talk to my ex g/f. I still think of her all the time, I still wonder what would of happend, where we would be now. I'm still very much in love with her. We've talked about getting back together but it never ended up happing. My mom doesn't like her much, and hers really doesn't like me either, not sure why on either one. She still wears the ring I gave her and the heart pendent I gave while we where dating. She says she still has feelings for me, and if I didn't have a g/f she would be ready to give it another try, she even asked me to move in with her again.

The other problem
When me and my ex lived together she got preg. but had a misscarge at 3 months. I so much want a kid of my own someday. My current g/f can not have a child, no matter what, its a medical thing.

So I'm so confused on what to do. I don't want to hurt my current g/f, but I can't get over my ex. What should I do... Please someone Help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!

hjpan · Jul 20, 2008, 08:51 AM

You're a shallow douche. Seriously, you got your current girlfriend pregnant three times and all miscarried... Seriously, you seem like the type of guy who just wants to get in the pants. If you want to be with your ex, why would you even try to impregnant your current girlfriend? Not to mention, you have no feelings for anyone... You say you have feelings for your ex, but you are living with your current girlfriend.

Just stop going for relationships cause you have NO CLUE what to do.

Of course, you can leave your current girlfriend but do you KNOW HOW SHE'LL FEEL? You got her pregnant three times AND ENDED MISCARRIAGE... She'll feel like sh8..

ON TOP OF THAT, you knew from the start that there might be a chance to get back so why did you even find a new girlfriend?

liz28 · Jul 20, 2008, 09:11 AM

You're hurting your girlfriend by still having contact with your ex and not having it on a friend's level. Its unfair to her and would you like it if she was doing this behind your back.

If her not being able to concieve is an issue you should express that to her but at least she was honest enough to share that with you, and that have to be hard for her as well.

If you want to be with your ex, then let her know. Just don't hurt her and don't be with someone if your heart ain't in it.

Every decision you make have a reaction. Note: Even if you leave your current girlfriend for your ex, it does not mean the relationship will have a happy ever after. Other than your girlfriend not being able to concieve are there any reasons besides your ex that you want leave her?



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